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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I think I have a problem which could start to affect a lot of relationships that I have with people. I seem to flake out of plans quite regularly, I get offered to so quite a lot of things and opportunities and ill take then up at the time but when it gets closer to the event happening I just come up with all kinds of excuses.I'm finding it really hard to say yes to things and actually mean it. I'm wondering if im going through some.sort of little mini depression at the moment.I currently don't have a job (although I start a fantastic new career next month), really struggling for money and in a pretty messed up situation with a girl (it's a really complicated fwb). I'm really not sure how I can be helped or give myself a kick up the backside.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2015): If you've had an extended period of unemployment, you are feeling depressed. Your energy-level is reduced and you're in hiding to avoid the dreaded question: "have you found a job yet?" People mean well, but shouldn't ask anything so personal in-front of others. Your self-esteem is low, and your lack of funds is a killjoy. It's your pride, my young friend.
If you can't go out, because you don't have the money; be honest with people. Let them know that you're financially-
strapped. Sometimes they want to treat you and pep you up; and you should be gracious and accept it. Don't take advantage. If it's a party? Drag yourself out; so you can mingle and get a dose of encouragement, fun, and share with your friends.
What you're feeling is temporary, and what you're going through happens to everyone. You cannot surrender to it; or you'll become isolated and lose a lot of friends. It means you need to get out more, and fight the urge to give-up.
Congratulations on the new job! Now you have something to celebrate. If you've felt down and depressed for a very long time, please go see your doctor.
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