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*bonyBlossom
writes:Ever since I first had sex nearly four years ago, I have had a burning pain at the entrance of the vagina during sex and have sometimes had to ask my boyfriend to stop. I have even had pain inserting tampons sometimes.I was on the combined pill when I lost my virginity and have been ever since but have changed pills twice (I've been on marvelon, cilest and most recently yasmin)We have tried sex with lubricant, once it relieved the pain after a few minutes, the other times it hasn't really worked. My boyfriend said he couldn't feel anything when we used lube,bethought perhaps we put too much on. We've also tried giving me an orgasm through oral sex first but that doesn't work either.Today I tried putting some lube on a small plastic tube and inserting it inside me, but it still burned. I went and had A look at myself in the mirror and it looked red Raw. I Googled this and it came up with vulvar vestibulitis. It suggested that the pain may be caused by the pill and that I should come off it but I really don't want to do that if possible.i have only had sex with two people and i don't have an std.I think I'll book an appointment with the nurse but I just wondered if anyone else had any other ideas. It has stopped me from having an enjoyable life and i am sick to the back teeth of it. Thank you :-)
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (5 October 2012):
 If he has thrush (which really isn't a STD but transmitted sexually too) you can get a yeast infection over and over - passing it back and forth.
And I can only go by what you write. Which is why I said unprotected sex.
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (5 October 2012):
EbonyBlossom is verified as being by the original poster of the question Just another question to honeypie, what protection can you get from oral sex? And I've been tested for std s since I've been with my current boyfriend.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 October 2012):
 Painful sex is far from a trivial thing, because the problem is not so much that you can't enjoy penetration , since as you say you can do other sexual stuff.... the problem is that the burning pain you mention is not a NORMAL component of sex , is not to be expected and is a symptom of several conditions,including vestibulitis, which while not necessarily dramatic per se, when neglected can easily lead to CHRONICAL vulvodinia ( chronic pain not just at the entrance of your vaginal orifice, but in the whole area, inside and out, perineum included ... at which point there's no lube and no " stretching " which will help you ).
Really, you've got to learn value your body better,listen to the signals it sends, and take MUCH better care of yourself. Now, off you go to your ob/gyn ! Quick !
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (5 October 2012):
It's not so much the painful sex I would worry about but the a burning pain at the entrance of the vagina and that it looked and it looked red Raw, to quote you.
And I said unprotected because I assume when you said oral he had his mouth on your vagina with no barrier. Being on the pill doesn't prevent the STD's that can affect you. Just pregnancy.
And I will still suggest you get LOOKED at by a gynecologist. They specialize in the vagina, so to speak and the things that can affect them - giving a nurse vague details can muddle the actual problem, if that makes sense.
It could be something as simple as the pill you are on, or the latex (if you use condoms). So go get it checked out.
YOU should be able to enjoy sex.
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (5 October 2012):
EbonyBlossom is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnd also to clarify this nurse specialists in sexual health and family planning
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (5 October 2012):
EbonyBlossom is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't have unprotected sex and never have, that's why i don't want to come off the pill. For years i just put it Down to not being stretched enough as we don't have sex very often. I've spoken to my nurse about it in vague detail, which is why i changed pill the second time but it hasn't made a difference. Maybe I'm getting my priorities wrong but I've always thought painful sex was a trivial thing to have to go to hospital for when you can get pleasure in other ways, as i wouldn't want to waste their time.
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reader, Beatriceandjohn +, writes (5 October 2012):
That happened to me something like 3 years ago... It burnt whenever I had sex which made me be terrified at the idea of having sex in itself... Turned out I couldn't have sex cause I wasn't wet enough so that caused me a lot of pain. After that it became something psychological and whenever the person even told me about sex I went dry straight away. Turned out the guy and I were not sexually compatible which made sex something dreadful!
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (5 October 2012):
Why isn't your first thought to get checked out by a gynecologist? They know EXACTLY what they are looking at and how to (hopefully) fix it. 4 YEARS? And no gyno visit?
Googling might give you an idea, but you can not leave your health to random google searches.
I don't say this to be harsh, but you really need to take stuff like this serious. The fact that you continue to have sex with your BF unprotected isn't smart either.
Book an appointment with a GYNECOLOGIST not a nurse and go get checked out.
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