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writes:i have a good life, i love my partner v much as he does me, I have a few close friends, I study full time and work 16 hours a week, job I enjoy and its easy and I only do 16 hours a week. Live with my bf and step daughter (9). thats about the facts. day to day things are fine, had some ups and downs with the child- been a few probs there, My course is quite hard and bit stressful, finances are tight But there is nothing major to make me sad. but somedays, maybe once a week i have a really bad day, I wake up feeling sad, lonely, depressed, lost, out of place, feel like i have no one to turn to, just cry and feel sorry for myself all day, feel like Im no good to anyone, I focus on all my bad attributes n feel like I deserve nothing good. My self confidence is so low I just want to hide away with no contact with anyone for a week. (Please notE i am not like this around the child- she never ever sees its- my partner can tell cause sometimes I say to him I feel like he's not affectionate or something but he doesnt know the way I feel all the day, sometimes over a acouple days) So9metimes I just want someone to take me in their arms and just hold me or stroke me and let me cry, I cant go to my partner because he'll assume that the reason Im unhappy might be because of him or our relationship, and I dont want him to think that for a second. but he'seen me unhappy before and it doesnt matter how much I tell him its not about us or things at home of course he has that nagging doubt that it is- because I can give no real reason why Im miserable. maybe moist ppl feel like this occasionally and just deal with it better than me. guess Im just looking for ppls opinions or advice if you have any. Sometimes I'll call a friend I think I mite be able to talk to but as soon as they answere I chicken out n act my usual happy self and start talking bout our next nite out or something. anyway, thanks for listening peeps
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2008): You sound like you need a trip to the doctors and get them to check you out. But let your bloke know what is happening to you or he may think that you are hiding something behind his back, which you are, but he may suspect something else. Talk to him and explain it as you have done to us, i am sure he will be very helpful and caring. But do have a trip to the doctors because it does sound like depression to me and i know i am fighting it on a daily basis.
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reader, rhythmandblues2  + ♥, writes (25 February 2008):
 If you have these crying spells, and poor moods every week for more than two weeks and have a general non enjoyment of life or the things you used to do, then yes you are suffering from depression.
The best course of action is to first make an appointment with your family physician for a complete physical to determine if there is a medical cause, as there could be, but more than likely there is not, it is a brain chemical imbalance....be very honest and be very specific about what kinds of thoughts and feelings you are having and discuss treatment with your doctor....he can prescribe antidepressants and or anti anxiety medications and refer you to a therapist for some talk therapy, a combination of these usually works the best....don't be afraid of either....it shows a great sign of character to first admit a problem and also to get the help you need. Depression is not a character weakness or something that you can will yourself to get over....you need to seek treatment....There are some great new medications out there that have no side effects and can give you your self back so that you can get back to life on an even keel....best regards to you.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (25 February 2008):
 hey there, well first of all, shying away and hiding your feelings from your friends and family is not healthy, and will only make a bad situation worse. your problem may be that some things are easier for others to deal with than you. if you feel like you need more than your friend's advice about this, then maybe you could go see someone? if you think about it, is there any one thing that you focus on that gets you down? you need to talk to your bf, and explain to him that you dont know why you are feeling like this, and it is in no way to do with him, you are just finding some things difficult, tell him that you need his support and that you think that you may need help. to be honest, if its just once a week, it doesnt sound like you have clinical depression. why dont you try changing your lifestyle also? i have heard and read that more excercise, less alcohol, quitting smoking etc can make you feel better about yourself. but hun, dont cover up your feelings, they will only build up and get worse for you. i hope everything works out for you, if you want to talk to me about some things im just an email away ok? good luck!! xxx
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