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Could I be his back up option?

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Question - (5 March 2017) 4 Answers - (Newest, 15 March 2017)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I joined a dating site a month ago and got chatting with a guy. a couple of week ago he told me he had decided to see how it would go with someone he had already met so he was honest and didnt want to string me along. He said hes still on the site as he wants to be friends with me and i asked doesnt this woman mind , he said if she has any issues he is happy to show the messages he has , i dont mind this as we are just friends ( we never got to meet and just keep it polite and casual like friends do ) i am looking at other guys and seeing who else is out there ,but he has kept his profile public . Maybe he wasnt interested in me and didnt want to hurt my feelings so made up this other woman up. I know he is most likely giving it a few week with this woman and if it goes great he will leave the site but do i sound like a back up option for this guy ? i cant think of any other reason to why he is still on the site and wanting to keep me in his life even just as friends

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (15 March 2017):

aunt honesty agony auntYeah I think you are on their to find dates not online friendships so wish him luck and move on.

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (7 March 2017):

chigirl agony auntYes, you are a back up option.

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A female reader, Campari Milano United Kingdom +, writes (6 March 2017):

If you want to keep chatting to this guy, do. But remember that you are just friends. If he decides he wants more, you have your answer. Don't be anyone's second choice!!!

Get on with your own life and try not to care what he is doing, or who he's doing it with.

You are better than this!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (6 March 2017):

Honeypie agony auntAre you on the dating site looking for a partner or for friends?

My guess is a partner, so DON'T let this guy waste any more of your time. Wish him well and block him. Look elsewhere for a partner, this guy isn't it.

And yes, you DO sounds like a backup option.

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