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Could his online message have been meant for me?

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Question - (3 January 2015) 4 Answers - (Newest, 3 January 2015)
A female United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I met someone a few months ago. He is very attracted to me (and I to him), and I recently went out of my way to do something nice for him to thank him for something he did. We are just friends and neither of us has said anything...yet. I am still in a relationship (not a very healthy one) but I haven't told him things aren't going well..just that I am not available right now.

He recently gave me his business card and a few days later I googled his name. I found a picture message there on a social network site which was posted just days after my thank you gesture(which he had truly appreciated).

The online message said: ''Effort is attractive....don't give up''. Was this message in any way related to me? Was he hoping I might google his name and perhaps he is sending me a message not to give up on him?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (3 January 2015):

Honeypie agony auntNo, as nice as that fantasy might BE for you, you need to come back to reality.

You want a chance or anything with this guy... BE single, get over the current relationship.

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A female reader, WhenCowsAttack United States +, writes (3 January 2015):

Sending you a message? ESP'd that you would Google him?

Step back there, little lady. He may well like you, but you are REALLY reaching for straws here. It's ok to have a crush, but don't totally lose your mind entirely over it.

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A female reader, Sincerely Yours United States +, writes (3 January 2015):

Sincerely Yours agony auntI'm not really sure anyone expects to be googled and I'm confused about what aspect he would tell you not to give up on. It's possible he was thinking of you when he wrote it, but I wouldn't get too caught up in this. There's really no way to tell and you shouldn't really be spending your energy on a man who is not the one with whom you're in a relationship. It's my opinion that you would benefit from putting that energy into your current relationship either to end it or it make it stronger. Once it's over, you can start worrying about whether or not he likes you and can even approach him for a direct statement instead of analyzing a mysterious one from afar.

~SY

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A female reader, RubyBirtle United Kingdom +, writes (3 January 2015):

No, I don't think this message was aimed at you. I don't think he posted it with the hope that you were the one that would see it. It's a very generic comment - it could be about anything really.

But I maybe it was INSPIRED by you and your act of kindness. Such things can lift out mood for days. Likewise someone's thoughtless or unkind actions can make us feel negative for days. If someone posts on social media a rant or cryptic comment about bad drivers - they haven't really posted it with the hope that one particular driver will read it.

Good luck with sorting your relationship problems out. Make 2015 the year to do it once and for all.

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