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Could he be scared to commit?

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Question - (29 April 2009) 3 Answers - (Newest, 2 May 2009)
A female United States age , anonymous writes:

I met someone online a few years back, he was all fired up about meeting in person. It took a few months for us to meet. We clicked immediately, he called me, we spoke on the phone all the time. I called his house and his children would pick up and I'd ask for him. We always talked about spending more time together but it didn't happen for a really long time. We met again, had a great time, two days later, he blocks my e-mails and ignores my phone calls. Finally he's back again.

I say hi and we speak as if nothing happened. We meet again much much later. After this meeting, he blocks me again. We live about an hour away from each other. At one time he told me he wasn't 100% and I asked what he meant and he said financially and I said I didn't care and he said he did. He also has two kids teenagers. He says time is an issue with him and this is why we don't see each other. But why does he block me every time we do.

Our meetings are great, we laugh, we kiss and yes we make love. I saw him recently and he told me he wants to spend more time with me and maybe when his kids go to Florida with their Mom. He says he feels badly that when we're together because it always seems so rushed. And I told him I will take what I can for now, what bothers me is that he blocks me after each encounter. So this time he didn't block me.

He read my first e-mail saying we had a great time and it was nice to see him and he agreed. Recently I sent another e-mail and deletes it. I don't know what to make of him. I can't get him out of my head or my heart. I really think I love him, could he be scared?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (2 May 2009):

If he's blocking you he isn't treating you right so find someone who does.

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A female reader, 48years  +, writes (30 April 2009):

48years agony auntYou love him because he made you feel sexy. You are confusing lust with love.

Men don't have those problems, and a man who really cares about you won't block your calls EVER. In fact, he can't resist calling you.

Please... forget this one, and learn from your mistake... women have sex to get love ( you know the old adage)...and men decide within 30 seconds if you are relationship material or fun for the night material...and they never take you out of the fun for the night category and put you in the relationship material category.

Otherwise, you'll become obsessed with him, you'll live and die for his calls, you'll convince yourself you love him, you'll endlessly analyze every conversation, and you'll be hurt over and over again...because you are already in the fun for the night category.

So ditch this man without remorse or pity - he did not deserve you and his approach sounds fishy (or married and feeling guilty) to me.

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A female reader, niki20 United States +, writes (30 April 2009):

niki20 agony auntPossibly yes. Obviously he has had a fall out with his childrens mother. He sounds like he wants to see you but is it because of you or because you guys have sex? He does sound scared but that is because he had his heart broken in the past after spending how much time with her?? That is really weird that he is blocking your stuff and deleting it.

It could be something as simple as him not wanting his children to see bc maybe they have access to the computer and his email address to. You never know ask him....Thats the only way to get a sure fire answer is by talking with him about it.

Good luck!!!

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