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Controlling gag reflex during oral sex with a bigger man

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Question - (5 November 2013) 7 Answers - (Newest, 10 November 2013)
A female United States age 41-50, *ahinegirl writes:

I love giving oral sex, taste or smell are not a deterrent. My current boyfriend has a larger penis, and I would like to know how to stop from gagging. I know I can use my hand to control penetration, but I would like to know how to handle, desensitize , or train myself t control my gagging so that I can take all of him,

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A male reader, DoubleM United States +, writes (10 November 2013):

DoubleM agony auntI must agree with some others that deep penetration is unnecessary for an enjoyable blow job, and fortunately I've enjoyed too many to mention. Some of the very best were really just concentrated on the tip. The only time I've really preferred a little more depth is during ejaculation, and girls have told me that it was easier to swallow that way.

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A female reader, Wahinegirl United States +, writes (6 November 2013):

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To anonymous female, if you need to judge me because of your own hang ups, don't respond to posts in this category!

To everyone else: thank you very much, your advice has helped me very much.... Although I have no idea where I'd find a sword swallower....LOL!

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A female reader, YouWish United States + , writes (5 November 2013):

YouWish agony auntYou can give him 10 times the pleasure if you DON'T deep throat him! Like Person12345 has said, the nerve endings are in the glans! Get skilled with your tongue and vary the pressure of your lips, you can blow his mind as well as his load!

I had to minimize my gag reflex when I first was diagnosed with ESRD, because gagging was a primary symptom, and also I was sensitive to taking pills. When I got a kidney transplant, I had to take 48 pills a day for a long time, and I still take 19 per day to this day, a few of them horse pills. I'll give you some tips:

1. Chloraseptic or Anbesol. The former numbs the throat, which is the trigger for the gag reflex. The second numbs toothaches, but if you apply it with a q-tip gently, you can numb the back of your throat. Be careful with anbesol though, it's lidocaine, which can numb his penis as well.

2. Icy cold drink. Sucking on an ice cube, taking drinks of ice water all lower and calm the gag reflex by a lot. The downside is whether he wants to deal with the cold during oral sex.

3. Warm Salt water. It's meant to soothe laryngitis, but it also numbs the gag reflex for people with strep throat.

4. Humming! I'm not kidding! Humming actually short-circuits the gag reflex to a point!

5. Doing oral at night and not in the morning. I know guys with their blowjob fantasies at first light, but the gag reflex is stronger in the morning.

6. Not eating two hours before oral. Food in the stomach strengthens the gag reflex.

7. Training yourself. Use penis shaped items to slowly practice. Doesn't have to be dildos or whatever, it can be cucumbers or carrots or whatever.

8. Have him lay on his back on the bead instead of you on your knees. Tell him gentle hip movements rather than the grab your head and drill.

Hope these help a little!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2013):

You don't have to take your b/f in all the way but I guess you know that.

If you really want to do it like Deep Throat (because you want to and not just to please you b/f) do some reasearch into sword swallowers as they have to learn how to suppress their gag-reflex too.

I've watched some deep throat and some of the girls still gagged a bit on occasion. It seems that a slight retchy noise isn't to much of a problem for the guys who really dig it.

It's not a skill I would chose to spend a lot of time learning though but each to their own....

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A female reader, Tisha-1 United States +, writes (5 November 2013):

Tisha-1 agony auntGo find a sword swallower and ask him or her, I understand they have learned to suppress the gag reflex.

It's an involuntary reflex that is designed to prevent you from choking, apparently it can be suppressed with practice.

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (5 November 2013):

person12345 agony auntIf you are trying to go deep enough you are gagging, you are going too deep! Most nerve endings are in the head. Use your mouth on the head and a lubed hand on the shaft. You don't need to be gagging to give a good BJ.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2013):

Seriously, for what reason? Why do you need to take in his entire penis? Did you ask him if that will actually be better than everything else? Or is this just for show because it's so popular in porn movies for shock value and degrading women?

Practice with a sex toy if that's really what think you need to do to please him. Everyone's body is different.

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