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*m_a_dummy
writes:my friend is making a big mistake!!! he is 19, and in pre-med school. His stupid girlfriend is a controling phycopath (i dont care abour spelling) she thinks she can control where he works, who he talks to, who he hangs out with, when they can hang out. I asked him for help, and he was helping me with my friend jenny (both of us being girls) and apperantly according to his girlfriend (who until we just talked, was my friend) that his help was me using him as a diary. I dont tell him very much at all. anyway i dont want to get into details, but she is so wrong for him, they have broken up 3 times and i see him making a HUGE mistake. she has his cell phone and i dont know when or if he will get it back, but how do i let him know that she is controlling his life!!! when she told me to stop talking to him i told her she had no control over me or over who he talked to that it was his life to do what he wants with, and she said "no i dont have control over you, but do you really think my opionion means that little to him? that he will do as you say and not his fiance?" SHE IS NUTS! please! anyone!! any advice, he is my only sain friend and i cant lose him or his frienship!!!
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reader, im_a_dummy +, writes (29 January 2009):
im_a_dummy is verified as being by the original poster of the question isnt there anything i can do to like.. force him to open his damn eyes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i told his stupid fiance i wouldnt stop talking to him unless he himself told me to go away, and she took his fone and texted me through it telling me to go away and i know it was her, because she types differantly then him for one and for two instead of saying, "you dont know her." it said "you dont me" so yea.. like, i dont even think he knows what she is doing!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (26 January 2009):
Sometimes you can't do anything about this kind of thing. The more you try, the more reason she will have to claim that you are bad and should be cut out.
You just have to back off and let him stop being so stupid as to fall for her.
At some point he'll realise that he's stopped being a boyfriend and become her pet dog.
Until then, you just have to back off and hope for the best.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, im_a_dummy +, writes (26 January 2009):
im_a_dummy is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe blocked me on msn, myspace, everything!!!!!!!!! he blocked my number from calling him and it wasnt him that did it! HIS DAMN GIRLFRIEND! I HATE HER!!!!!!!!!! she is taking my best friend away!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2009): All you can do is be honest with him, sometimes us humans try and see things for what we want it to be, and that’s probably why there are millions of people on this site getting different opinions from different people, and I am sure that half of those people get advise and still follow their own, it human nature. Think about something your parents told you not to do, and after doing it you stood back and said, if only I had listened. Well angel I think this is exactly the same, you can try to guide him show him what shes doing and if he decides to stay with his controlling girl for now, its his choice, he will see her for a true self in the future, maybe not today or tomorrow, perhaps not for a month or a year, but when he does, you need to make sure that you will be there to catch him, coz when he falls he’s gona fall hard, and you being there as a friend, no to tell him I told you so but to help him will mean the world to your friend, and he will know to trust your judgment, and that you only want whats best for him. Don’t try and force the issue with him, some learn from others mistakes and some needs to make that mistake themselves.
good luck
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