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writes:I cant seem to break my habit of constantly asking my girlfriend if she is happy in our relationship and she is getting annoyed by it, I have been told it is because of a lack of confidence in myself and in our relationship..but here's the catch...it seems that everytime I make the smallest mistake she gets bent out of shape about it and makes me feel as if she is fed up with everything and wants to call it quits, even though she tells me that is not the case. How can I have confidence when I feel that if I do the slightest thing wrong or say thing wrong thing that it might be the one time she decides to end it? Like if I forget to do something once, she reacts in such a fashion, "Nevermind I will do it myself from now on" and doesnt even want to give me the chance to prove I can remember next time...
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (22 November 2010):
People fight, disagree, and get annoyed. If you're in a strong relationship, you should be able to say to yourself that it's okay, and that despite any words that are said, at the end of the day, you'll still be together. You can ask her a million times whether she's happy in the relationship, but I doubt that whatever answer she gives will really calm you down and make you secure. Maybe for 2 minutes, but afterwards, when you aren't cuddled or together, you'll start doubting it again. Especially since you asked her. She didn't spontaneously tell you that she loves you and is happy. You asked her. So instead of asking, just try to distract yourself. Let her calm down, let things go back to normal, and at the end of the day, when you're still together, you can say, a little thing like that won't break us. And this way, maybe she'll spontaneously say something sweet and romantic because she won't always be having to answer you when you ask.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2010): Call me wrong here, but who wants to be in a relationship when you're walking on eggshells. I've been in this relationship before, and its not this. If you're walking around worrying constantly about being human, you're with the wrong girl. Its not fair to either of you on this one. You're punishing her for being insecure, and she's punishing you for just wanting to be in a open, communicative relationship.
SOrry it I'm being too harsh, as its just my opinion, but i've been here before, and its never turned out to be good.
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