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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I am quite distressed due to the fact that the guy N that I am pretty infatuated with did not attend my birthday party when he told me that he would come along and did not keep to his word.I took this at face value and was very eager to see him. When me and my friend were in the middle of getting ready, my friend told me that he had texted her and said he was going to make a no show due to his girlfriend being round his house.It put a downer on my birthday even though it should not have. I texted my friend during the aftermath of the party, I asked her what did N have to say for himself and she said that he kept scthum without another word. I ended up badmouthing N to her, and he ignored me the next day and a month later acted like nothing had happened.I have texted N before asking him to meet me 1 to 1 but he stood me up 3 times, and he is currently blanking everyone and not attending university lectures now he has a clingy girlfriend.Also, N ended up kissing my mutual friend at a party(before he got a girlfriend. My mutual friend told me in confidence that N told her that he tends to mislead girls who he thinks fancies him. I am starting to really hate him just to put a negative spin on it. Do you think I am acting irrationally/overreacting to this situation and go cold turkey on him or wait? xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2014): There's a silver lining here.
You had a crush on a guy, who has a girlfriend. He didn't exactly play you along, you crushed after him. Knowing he was already committed to someone else. He overlooked your schoolgirl behavior, when you unjustly badmouthed him.
You didn't like the fact he kissed someone else, and called his legitimate girlfriend clingy. Now you can get over your crush, his girlfriend can relax; and everything is neat clean, and it's proper place.
You don't end up writing DC to tell us how you fell in-love; and he breaks your heart by cheating on you with someone else. You found out what he was really like; without being one of his victims.
I'd say it's a win-win all the way around. Count your blessings kiddo! You're a winner!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2014): What's confusing? He has a girlfriend and he has the common sense not to go hanging around someone who is crushing on him.
You admit to being infatuated, but he has a gf. To be honest you have no idea if she is clingy or not, when people have a new relationship you tend to skip social gatherings because you just want to be with them so it's probably his choice to spend his time with her, no one is forcing him.
Just cool off, find other - single - people to focus your attention on because this guy is a no go.
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