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Condoms really hurt me, is this normal??

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Question - (1 December 2007) 5 Answers - (Newest, 15 April 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 26-29, *odka-tearz writes:

My problem is that when me and my boyfriend use condoms, they really hurt me. Extra fine ones don't seem to, but I'm worried about them ripping or something. Please tell me:

1. If this is normal

2. If it's happened to you

3. The reason for it

4. Any ways to help

Thankyou so much xxx

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008):

this could be because you are not wet enough at first. let him spit on your vagina and when it goes down to the hole let him finger it into you

until he can feel that it is fully wet inside.

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A female reader, vodka-tearz United Kingdom +, writes (2 December 2007):

vodka-tearz is verified as being by the original poster of the question

vodka-tearz agony auntThankyou for your answers. What you said, troubledtoomuch, sounds exactly the same as my problem. I've discovered that extra fine condoms don't hurt/hurt as much.

We have a lot of lubrication so I might seek professional advice, thankyou though.


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A male reader, Sandman United States +, writes (2 December 2007):

Sandman agony auntHmmm....

Is it because of lack of lubrication or do you have an allergy to latex? Both could be possible.

You could try using condoms made of polyurethane and see if you get the same reaction or "hurt" when you use latex condoms. If it's the case that it hurts only when using latex condoms, you could have an allergy. If both condoms hurt, it could be that you need extra lube - like everyone has said already.

Hope this helps.

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A female reader, birdynumnums Canada +, writes (2 December 2007):

birdynumnums agony auntCondoms tend to need more lubrication. Astro-glide is a great lube, and it doesn't stain clothes or sheets.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007):

My wife said that when she was in her 30s and dating after her divorce that she hated condoms for the same reason. She says that they felt like they were pulling on her vagina and they hurt. Neither her nor I know if this is normal, but it is what she felt with any of her boyfriends. Don't know the reason for it. You might try extra lube. KY Silk-E is really good and very slippery. She never tried that back before we started going together as she really didn't know about lubes like KY. I only used a condom our first time in bed as she was on birth control and she stopped dating anyone else after we met. Also, there was no AIDS back then. The thinner polyurethane condoms, like Trojan Supra, are supposed to be as strong as regular latex condoms.

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