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Question - (19 November 2010) 3 Answers - (Newest, 1 December 2010)
A female United States age 22-25, *ost in heart writes:

so me and this guy was dating for almost 2 years and i really fell for him but things just started going bad about 4 months ago. we broke up and i had sex with a guy i like also and felt sort of bad about it. well my ex started talking to another girl then he found out about me having sex with another guy. hes hurt but wants me back. he told the other girl his heart was confused and couldnt be with her cuz he still loves and cares for me. he has been backstabbing, started rumors about this guy raping a girl which isnt true at all, he has brought me up but brought me down and so many other things. i just cant seem to choose who i want to be with. of course i know its my choice but i just need some advice.

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A female reader, lost in heart United States +, writes (1 December 2010):

lost in heart is verified as being by the original poster of the question

thank you all for answering my question and yes i know about std's and stuff like that. so far we are just friends called it off with the other people that we started seeing or what you wont to call it and i really dont know if i should trust this agian or not but every answer helped.

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A female reader, YouWish United States +, writes (20 November 2010):

YouWish agony auntYou both sound like you need some growing up, sorry to say. You break up with him and immediately have sex with someone else? That's risky beyond risky! And your ex sounds like a complete fruit loop.

You should stop thinking about this boy and sex in general and concentrate on your future and your studies. You could have your life ruined by STD's and pregnancy so easily. Did you know that 1 in 5 people have herpes? If you keep having risky casual sex, you could be that 1!

Sorry to sound like your mom, but SLOW WAY DOWN!

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A male reader, Cerberus_Raphael Sweden +, writes (20 November 2010):

Cerberus_Raphael agony auntIs it your ex that started rumors? If that is true, I would advise against getting back together with him unless he comes clean and admits that he started the rumor and that there is no truth to them (if there really isn't). If he wishes to be with you, he cannot go about trying to win your heart again by spreading lies. He has to stop bringing you down all the time because, you do not need that in a relationship at all.

In my honest opinion though, you should not be considering reconciliation with that ex of yours until you see that he is ready to make a change.

I hope that helps.

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