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writes:My friend has been seeing this boy (boy1) for about a year and she has cheated on him a lot of times and now shes seeing one of her ex's (boy2) while boy1's in prison she has also kissed boy2's brother. I don't want to be interfering but she's going to lose both of them. Should I tell them or just leave her to it???
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reader, CorpusDei  +, writes (11 March 2008):
 You can let her know that her actions bother you as her friend, and that you worry about her, but that's where it should stop. Don't tell her not to do it, if you air your concerns and she doesn't stop - stay out of it. It's not your business, it's not your problem, and if you stick your hand in that particular meat grinder you're going to get hurt, one way or another.
You can't change another person or make their decisions for them. I know, I've tried more times than I care to think about, and lots of people have tried to change me. It's never worked well. What you can do, is make a change and a decision for yourself. If your friends behavior bothers you to the point where you're asking us about it, you have to decide for yourself if your friend is the kind of person you want to associate yourself with and if her behavior is acceptable. If it is, then don't be bothered, go with god, be safe from evil.
If it isn't, then you may wish to start distancing yourself from that friendship. She will have to make the decision for herself on whether her behavior is destructive and negative and should be stopped. If she comes to you and asks to hang out, let her know that you still want to be her friend and you still value that friendship, but you have to make the decision on what kind of behavior you want to associate yourself with.
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