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writes:"OP Own Title"I cheated on my boyfriend of 5 years with my best friend who I've known for more than 9 years. It only happened once and alcohol was involved, but I still feel awful about it. Before this incident we had never slept together and while talking the night of the event we discovered that in high school we both had feelings for each other which were never addressed. I feel so terrible because I know if i tell my boyfriend he will break up with me because he does not stand for this behavior. I love him to death. I don't want to be with anyone else. I'm also scared I might cheat again with my best friend, I don't have any urge to sleep with anyone else but him and my boyfriend. I guess I'm just confused and I feel stupid because I am alone, ruined my friendship and I don't want to break anyone's heart. Also, my friend lives out of town so a relationship is not possible.
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reader, shoccs  +, writes (21 July 2010):
tell him let him choose.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2010): You should end it with your boyfriend. You dont love him enough otherwise you wouldnt have cheated. Its selfish to stay with him as you will cheat again and he shouldnt be living under your pretence. The other guy will end up knocking you off while he's working to make a life for you both. He will get better treatment elsewhere with real love.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (21 July 2010):
Well, you have a choice now. The price of cheating with this best friend, is now one of these men has to be cut out of your life. Your boyfriend, or your best friend. Someone's heart will be broken. Personally, I think you should end it with both and focus on your own life right now. If you cheated, and you still feel the urge to cheat, then you're not as in love with your boyfriend as you think.
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reader, loraemoon +, writes (20 July 2010):
 firstly i agree by sleeping with your friends ruins any friendship, it should not happen, you say you are sorry and feel guilty but your also saying you fear you may cheat again with him, honestly a one night stand/ affair destroys any relationship if you love your partner like you say i really would not let this happen again, your in a big no win situation if you dont tell him its hanging over you, if you do you are likely to lose him good luck
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