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*.T.1988
writes:Ok I have a quick question. I'm still a virgin and the main reason is because: 1 my brother accidentally got a chick knocked up in college and so I've always been afraid of getting someone pregnant and then be stuck raising a kid that a don't want, and 2 I'm afraid of catching some nasty STD, that shit can kill you ya know? I could just have one night stands, that would eliminate the problem of raising a kid but then my chances of contracting something probably goe way up. So I guess this question goes out to those who do have lots of casual sex. Why do thing's like this not bother you more, and if it does how do you block it out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2010): I don't engage in casual sex, and I'm glad I don't.
Firstly because I believe it numbs you to the feelings that your supposed to convey to your partner while having sex. But this is dependent on if you think sex is special or that it's just something common used to feel good.
Secondly last month it was announced on the radio stations where I live that the city that I live in was STD capital of the country. With 5 out of 7 women having an STD that's 71%. Include the fact that it takes two people to have sex, and now you begin to see a problem.
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reader, J.T.1988 +, writes (21 July 2010):
J.T.1988 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Ok, don't take what I say too literally. I'm just thinking out loud.If you think that there's a flaw in my logic then please let me know but you really don't have to be hostile.
When I said one night stand,I didn't mean I would sleep with anyone local that knew me. I thought maybe go on a vacation pic someone up have a good time then the next morning split and head our different ways. I wouldn't even have to give my real name If I didn't want to.
I know this all sound horrible but trust me this is defiantly not my first choice. I would love nothing more than to be able to have my first time with someone I love and trust, but I just cant wait any more for someone that probably doesn't even exist.I never wanted it to be this way but I would rather do it with some random girl in a hotel room then potentially live the better part of my life with the social stigma of being an old virgin.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): Ever heard of condoms?!?!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (20 July 2010):
 Well there's a really easy way to make those chances go down a lot. Don't have tons of one night stands to avoid things even condoms don't help like herpes and HPV, then get with a girl you actually like and always use a condom. Women aren't crazy bitches who will stop at nothing short of sticking condoms with needles to get pregnant you know. It's MORE likely you'll run into one of these crazies, get her pregnant, AND get STDs if you sleep around a lot. You act like your brother's woman got herself knocked up and roped your brother in. Don't forget it takes to to tango. Plus the way you're describing this, I can already tell if you went ahead with your plan to sleep with as many chicks as possible to avoid getting her pregnant (where's the logic in that???) you're going to get a very nasty reputation among the ladies.
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reader, OhGetReal +, writes (20 July 2010):
 Sonny, I know plenty of men that call themselves Dad from one night stands. Where are you getting that crap?
Condoms slip, they break, women lie about being on the pill, alcohol is usually involved in one night stands which leads to risky behavior and not taking precautions.
Yeah, your concerns about having casual sex is real, but your logic about avoiding responsibility by having one night stands is just insane. Ever heard of a paternity test?
Find a girlfriend, use birth control, make sure you trust her to take her pill the right way, use condoms until trust is built and make a committment to marry especially if you become pregnant. In short have sex with a woman you are in love with.
Casual sex is risky...condoms do not protect against HPV virus which causes cancers, oral, anal cervical cancers. There is a vaccine for it which can help...go get one.
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