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Can't get this boy off my mind, even though I barely know him. Is it possible to truly like someone without knowing them?

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Question - (25 April 2011) 11 Answers - (Newest, 26 April 2011)
A female United Kingdom age 18-21, anonymous writes:

There's this guy who goes to my school that I really like but barely know. Basically, whenever I'm not in school I miss him so much that it always gets to the point of me crying my eyes out or lashing out at my family. Everything I do makes me think of him and even when I'm out with my friends having a good time, he's the only thing on my mind. I never get these feelings towards people.

But, I'm now beginning to wonder if I actually like him or if I really just like the idea of him.

What do you guys think?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2011):

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Thanks. I will try to get the courage to talk to him.

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A male reader, Capri2 Argentina +, writes (26 April 2011):

If you have a good excuse you can ask him to talk in private. Of course the others guys will make silly comments. But if you like this guy you won't care about that.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (26 April 2011):

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I would try to talk to him, but I can never get him on his own and time is running out. I don't know where he lives, but keep feeling the need to go out all day, to search for him, but it's no use.

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A male reader, Capri2 Argentina +, writes (25 April 2011):

If you aren't close to him, you could make up an excuse for talking to him. About anything you can think of. Or asking him about something. If you start talking to him frequently you will notice if he likes you.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2011):

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I don't know how I would tell him, cause he's kinda shy.

Also, I get really caught up in thinking about him, that I start to over analyse times when I have been near him. One time, he walked past a window, and looked directly at me, while smiling. I know it could have just been an accident, but it's the little things that happen that really make me think. (Sorry if I posted this twice.)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (25 April 2011):

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I would like to tell him, but he's kind of shy.

Also, there are times when I get so caught up in thinking about him, I seem to over analyse times when I have been near him.

He walked past a window once and looked through it, directly at me, while he was smiling. I know it might have just been an accident, but it's the little things that make me really think.

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (25 April 2011):

eyeswideopen agony auntI think you already know that you just like the idea of him at the moment. How can you really like someone if you don't know him?

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A female reader, msnewbeginning United States +, writes (25 April 2011):

msnewbeginning agony auntIt seems as if you are crushing on him. Maybe you should let him know instead of admiring him from afar. Who knows, he may like you

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A male reader, shawncaff United States +, writes (25 April 2011):

shawncaff agony auntIf you barely know him, then you are likely in love with an idealized image of him. You have a crush or infatuation.

This is a good start and motivator for a relationship, but you need to be careful because reality is much more complex than your imagination. If you imagine too much, you will inevitably become disappointed when you get to know him. Also, having such an idealized picture of someone may stop you from meeting someone who is right for you.

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A female reader, Roxsanna  United Kingdom +, writes (25 April 2011):

sound like you've fallen in love at first sight.... just get too know him and see how it goes from there.

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A male reader, Capri2 Argentina +, writes (25 April 2011):

You barely know him so it must be just physical attraction. You have a crush, if you get to know him you could or could not like him later.

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