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Can you tell if a man has had sex with someone else before he has sex with you?

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Question - (1 December 2006) 6 Answers - (Newest, 10 July 2009)
A female , anonymous writes:

I have a question..

Can you tell if a man has had sex or has masterbated

before he has sex with you? I heard when he is hard if there is extra skin on the top ( no I don't mean uncircumsized skin) ..it means he has done the deed with someone else...please help!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2009):

There is no way to tell unless he has had so much sex in the past day that he can't even get an erection. And even that could be for some other reason, like being worried about something not related to sex.

If a guy starts to have sex without having thought about sex then he won't be as aroused and it will take longer. If he has been thinking about sex or has been talking to you about it then he will be more aroused and will orgasm quicker.

Thin vs think semen doesn't tell either. I have been both and it didn't seem to matter how soon before sex I had previously had sex or masturbated. There were times in my younger past that I could have sex 3 times in 2 hours and it was about the same each time. I could also not have had sex for 2 days and I would last longer than if I had it often. It varied and still does now that I am older.

The amount of semen is not an indication either. There are times when my wife and I haven't had sex for 2 days and there is little semen and other times that there is a lot when we have had sex 8 or 10 hours earlier. It just varies for seemingly no reason.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2009):

I know its couple well years later but for anyone else who might want to know. For myself am a guy and that saying

"you can tell by there cum, after 2 or 3 days you have not had sex with him it's suppose to be thick, and if you have sex every day its runny and not thick".

It is true! well for me it is, i've tested it out by have sex with my gurl and then masturbating.But like they say again everyone is not the same. but i beleive most every guy is to be like that.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2007):

I was wondering the same thing about my boyfriend he always takes good long while to orgasim. And some times he don't last that long. I wonder some times that he is cheating on me and had already sex with some one else. I have heard that you can tell by there cum, after 2 or 3 days you have not had sex with him it's suppose to be thick, and if you have sex every day its runny and not thick. So I wonder myself if its's true about there cum.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2006):

I think that the only way you might be able to know if he has sex with another woman is to pull it out and smell it because the smell of sex is not one you can recreate when you masterbate only. Or on the other hand see if it smells like soap, like if it was freahly scrubbed off. Then ask him in a non-invasive way a question about when did he last shower because no man smells soapy after he bathed a few hours before. I hope this helps!

On the other hand dont trip on masterbation, almost everybody does it. He might do that because he doesnt want to prematurely ejaculate when he is with you.

Lasly if you think you cant trust him then just dump him. There are lots of men out there.

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A female reader, TasteofIndia United States +, writes (2 December 2006):

TasteofIndia agony auntI don't think you can tell... however, I will almost guarentee you (98.9% sure) that he's masturbated before. Most guys do. They experiment. Hey, if I had something hanging off of me, I'd probably toy around with it too.

Having sex, however? I don't think there's a way to tell, aside from straight up asking him.

xxIndia

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A reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2006):

No, that's a myth. That might happen to some people, but not others. There is no actual way to tell, but one thing can possibly give it away is if he seems to be really experienced in the way he make love to you. However, that isn't accurate, as some people can naturally pleasure their partner without having prior experience.

As for masturbation, it depends whether he masturbates a lot or not. If he masturbates a lot, it's possible he numbs the feeling with his penis, thus causing longer lasting sex, maybe even the inability to orgasm during a blow job or some intercourse sessions. This however, isn't universal. It depends on the person's stamina as well.

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