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writes:Is it possible to be great friends with someone... hanging out a lot, going out to dinner, movies, plays, etc... Able to be yourself with them, be extremely physically attracted to them, have amazing sex, and NOT have any feelings for them? i.e.... being in love??Any opinions or experiences? Reply to this Question
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reader, Scorpio1112 +, writes (7 February 2010):
Scorpio1112 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell.... 80% of the time it's non sexual and good, but I prefer the other 20% of the time! Obviously, she controls the percentage breakdown!!
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (7 February 2010):
 Yep!!!! hahhaha... them are one of the best relationships one can have.. unfortunately mine went off and fell in love with a very wonderful woman.... knocked the sex on the head and the going out decreases as well... :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2010): There is nothing wrong with that type of relationship if you are happy. Relationships like that can last a long time, or they can be a fill-in until you find someone who you believe it might be possible to fall in love with. I think a relationship like that is a good type of relationship to have after a failed long loving relationship or marriage. It prevents you from rebounding into another really serious relationship or marriage too fast, while allowing you to have someone to be close to and discuss your feelings with. It can be either sexual or non-sexual, but I would personally vote for sexual. Nothing wrong with that.
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reader, Scorpio1112 +, writes (7 February 2010):
Scorpio1112 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionGreat answer troubledtoomuch!
I think you hit it right on the head. I think this is exactly my situation!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2010): It is certainly possible. I had that type of relationship with 2 different women many years ago. It is not a f-buddy relationship. A f-buddy relationship is when you are casual friends and get together for sex. What you are talking about is a real relationship just one in which you fall in love, but without real love. The difference is really liking someone, but not falling in love or having the desire to spend the rest of your life with them. It is what most relationships really are, before you find the person who you can love. It is how even loving relationships normally start out before you realize that you love that person.
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reader, Scorpio1112 +, writes (6 February 2010):
Scorpio1112 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLOL!!! I know all about the F buddy relationship, and this does have all the makings of that kind of relationship. The problem is, she says she only wants to be friends without the sex, and sometimes that works and sometimes it doesn't.
There's always sexual tension... I guess that makes it a semi F buddy situation...
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2010): Sure, their called F_k buddies or F.W.B. It all depends on what you want and what he wants. If this relationship works for both of you, great. If not,,Then it is time to find a person you can fall in love with. You should be and have all the qualities with the one you love as you described with your FWB. Rule 1 always always always be yourself, do not get into a relationship you can NOT be yourself in!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2010): Oh yes. I was in a relationship with a boy for a year. We had the most amazing relationship: we never fought, if there were any issues we'd talk them through, we trusted each other completely, we'd always make each other laugh, etc. But we weren't in love. I've been with a boy now for 2 years who I actually am in love with and we have our arguments and our issues, like any other relationship. We're still extremely happy, of course, but it's not as perfect as my other relationship was. I think the best relationships are ones where you aren't in love because if something goes wrong, you aren't as affected by it and it's easier to forgive and move on and continue with the relationship as it was.
But the only problem is, eventually, the lack of feelings will get the better of one person and they'll want to find real love.
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