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writes:Are there signs that your ex might want to give you another chance. I dont think mine is like the typical ex. but then again i dont know. she messaged me today so we talked a little bit but she kept asking me questions. and I got annoyed and said is this just how its going to be? you just talking to me until you are over me?... i feel like she is toying with my emotions. But she said I just want to be on good terms... I said something mean and said "the girl I thought i loved wont listen to me" she responded and just said "thought u loved" I didnt respond to that and she said that makes me feel good.. but seriously how can I be friends with her? I mean if you love someone so much how can you see her with any one but you? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 October 2011):
 The best I've ever managed to be with an ex is civil. never friends.
I know folks want to try to remain friends because they think it looks good for them "see we remained friends" but it' never really works.
she wants to be on good terms so she can feel good about her self but it's making you crazy and you need to take care of you so yoy need to at least for a while walk away.
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reader, landomando +, writes (4 October 2011):
landomando is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIts been a month. She contacts me everyday. i have not once. We talked and she said I want to be on good terms and be friends. I told her I could never be your friend I love her too much. SHe has told me she loves me and has feelings for me ad will always love me but getting back together seems hopeless. Idk Im going down to visit her this week and I havnt told her.. Any ideas how I should do this?..ill probably try to post an add later today explaining everything but Idk I was gona ask her to comeover or go out and just be normal people.. I know we both have feelings for each other and I feel what I did we can get through it with alot of time. idk help
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reader, Thelaird1  +, writes (4 October 2011):
 I think it is possible to be best friends with an ex. That's the case for me anyway.
However, I don't think it's just friends you are looking for. It's impossible to be just friends with an ex if there are still deep rooted feelings involved.
I think you really need to let her go. You will end up hurting both of you and could actually end up hating each other.
I would advise you to delete her phone number and spend time rediscovering yourself again. Let her be free and let your heart and mind regain its peace.
You will soon move forward and be happy again
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 October 2011):
 You can't be friends with her, not until you are over her. It never works trying to be friends so soon after breaking up, when there is still feelings involved it is impossible because it will only hurt more. If you want her back well then you need to be honest with her and tell her how you are feeling. Don't try and hide your feelings just tell her how you feel. Communicate with her, and if she is not interested in getting back together with you, well then the best thing for you to do is to cut her out of your life completely and give yourself sometime to heal.
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