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writes:Hi, I'm a 16 year old girl and so far I have never been in a relationship with a guy. My (girl) friends say that I'm pretty and sometimes I believe them, sometimes I disagree. No guys have said that to me though. It does hurt a little that guys don't seem to find me attractive, as I also do well in school, I am sporty and I am quite good at music. I'm not conceited and although fairly mature for my age, I can be very giggly!Another thing... I go to an all-girls school and I am not a party girl (I don't drink when I do go to parties either) so to be honest I probably don't know that many boys. Can someone console me please? Why do guys not seem to fancy me? Reply to this Question
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reader, LyonHart  +, writes (30 October 2009):
 Hey listen, I think you should just be yourself, chivalry isn't quite dead but I'm convinced it dies with me. Personally, I'm attracted to shy or otherwise easily upset girls because I have the deepseated need to take care of them, make them feel better about themselves. In fact, among my friends, I'm a veritable therapist. My point is if you ever need consolation, feel free to e-mail me about it. you can reach me at [email address blocked].
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2009): Thanks everyone, and even your answers have given me more confidence in myself. Don't worry, I will wait for the right person, but thankyou again for your comments xx
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reader, Ms. Tearious +, writes (17 April 2009):
Sweetheart, it sounds to me like you're lacking in confidence. One thing you need to learn about guys/men, is that they have a sort of X-Ray vision for confidence in women. Like Superman can see through your clothes to your panties, regular guys can see through your actions and words to how you really feel about yourself. The more confidence you have, the more they'll be attracted to you. Yes, there is a certain point of confidence where they'll think you're cocky and overbearing, but you won't need to worry about that. Before you start trying to love or like any boys, you need to learn to love and like YOURSELF. Love yourself and others will see that, respect it, and want to be around that positivity more often, meaning, yes, you will draw more men to you. =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2009): Hey dont worry about it, the answers above pretty much sum it up and I agree with what they say.Look from your description you seem like a nice girl, have faith in yourself. As the aunts said above the nice guy once they get to know you will be smitten, then you'll become a heart breaker, but more of that anon,:-)
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (17 April 2009):
 If you don't know boys they are not going to tell you, you are pretty in the street.
Don't worry about it, boys are shy timid little things (well the nice ones are), wait till you have left school and are either in college or uni, you'll soon discover how many guys like you. Just don't fall for the first charmer that comes along.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (17 April 2009):
 I dont think it is a question of guys not fancying you, its just you havent really met any guys yet! You said it yourself, you dont know that many boys therefore how can a guy fancy you if you dont know him?!
Men like girls that are attractive however they wont "fancy" a girl until they know a bit about their personality too. You just havent met any guys yet so you have no idea if there are any guys out there that might like you! I bet guys walk past you in the street and think you are gorgeous, but without speaking to you then they wont take it any further than thinking "she's pretty!".
If you want a boyfriend then you need to find a way of meeting guys - clearly you currently have no contact with guys so you wont find yourself anyone at this rate! Get involved with some activities outside of school where there will be guys of your age, try joining sports clubs or something like that. Seen as your school is a girls school, then normally there is a boys school somewhere pretty close by (thats in my experience anyway!). Where do they hang out? Getting a part time job would be a great idea for you, this way you get some extra cash, get some experience on your cv and meet new people (and guys!) all at the same time!
All you need to do is start doing more things outside of school - whether it is with your friends or doing something new and meeting new people. Boys will fancy you but only when they get to know you a little, so unless you atcually get out there and talk to boys then boys wont fancy you! You only have 2 more years of school left (providing you are doing A-levels) and then you will be off out into the world where you will meet loads of guys and you will be wondering why you were so worried!
I hope this helps and good luck!
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