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writes:is it true that people can tell when you are not a virgin anymore? if so how?(besides a torn hemen; like a vibe) Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (22 December 2010):
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2010): No.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni was meaning more if one day i was a virgin and then next i wasn't, would people close to me be able to tell? ex. parents, friends
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reader, chigirl +, writes (22 December 2010):
A person who has sex with you will typically be able to tell you are a virgin or not based on your experience. But a random person on the street can't tell. You may also expose yourself if you talk about details of sex that a virgin wouldn't typically know. If you don't say anything, or talk about that topic, there is no way anyone can know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2010): Yes and no.
There is nothing about your body that people can see or find that mean you're not a virgin. If you were to line two girls up (one a virgin the other not) and examine them then you just wouldn't be able to tell.
But there are ways they can act during sex that can be obvious signs they've done this before. If a girl knows what she likes, or changes positions too easily with little effort then those are signs of experience. There are lots of little things that any of the virgins I've slept with didn't do. Like penis guidance or getting into the correct posture in certain positions with little help from me.
Don't get me wrong even girls that have had sex before sometimes aren't experienced enough to do those things or just never learned. But there are lots of little things that a girl just wouldn't know how to do unless she's done it before.
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reader, Abella +, writes (22 December 2010):
 People see something entirely different to the virgin issue. All the examples below could be virgins, or not. But these things below are what men see when they choose a girl, and it depends on what role the guy sees for that girl in his life, at that point in time:
1.Lady: the girl is polite and calm to all, strong self esteem, kind , well liked. Can stand up for self in a calm firm assertive manner Responsible, knows what she wants, discreet but will not put up with any nonsense. Introducing her to his family is a breeze, she'll be a good hostess and a mother. She may or may not be a virgin - and may even be a temptress behind closed doors. Rougher boys may call her frigid or stuck up - that's fine with her- because she is not interested in rougher boys.
2.Adventuress: She's ambitious, loud, sometimes one of the boys. She can muck out the stables, drive a pick up truck. Takes nonscene, but she'll curse you loudly for messing up. Swings from the chandeliers with mind blowing sex. So good some guys refuse to come back for seconds. Wears guys out. Great for a love em and leave'em relationship. Doesn't seem to have feelings (bet she does though?). Unlikely to be a virgin. Guys use her for flings.
3.Vacuous girly tart: trusts that if she wears the shortest skirt, puts on the highest heels, keeps her figure perfect, shows cleavage, lots makeup - keeps trusting she will snare the hottest guys. Giggles at his jokes, even if joke not funny. Thinks the guy will start treating her better if she just tries harder. Low self esteem. May or may not be a virgin. Very vulnerable to guys who exploit her. Wonders why she gets stuck with insecure cheating losers so often.
4.Mothering type girls: Don't always try to look good. Eternal worriers. Favorite word is NO! But they know how to pick their mark: Spineless Mom's boys who they can smother with attention. Very Labor intensive Can be controlling. But even a worm can turn. Filled with pity for themselves when worm cheats on them. Hides it well if is not a virgin. Sex is a duty, permitted after he has done his chores.
People look at your behavior. Not what may or may not have occurred to your body. Virgin or not a virgin does not define you. It is how you behave and interact and communicate with others that defines who you are
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