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male
age
26-29,
rook
writes:I live in the same apartment complex as a woman I work with. I have known her for a few months, and at first had no attraction to her. She had a boyfriend so it was not a problem.As the weeks progressed we became more flirtatious with each other. After a while we started kissing and so on...We never slept together but everything but. She talked to me about breaking up with her boyfriend, and if she did, we couldn't be monogamous; she would just want to have fun.I told her I couldn't be a part of that because it would hurt me too much. She has been 100% to her word. She broke up with her boyfriend and practically hooks up with a different guy every time she goes out. It never bothered me until recently, now it eats me up.The funny thing is she only dates these massive black guys, football players and basketball players mostly. I am definitely not her typical type. Don't get me wrong, I'm a white in good shape, but far for massive. So not only is she hooking up with other guys but they are the complete opposite of me.I know if we were to get in a relationship it probably wouldn't work out. I still think she is an amazing person but it is a hard situation for me, especially since we are so close, and I know when she doesn't come home at night.Furthermore, I am sleeping with this other girl in our apartment building who is really sweet, but I have no emotional ties to her. I’m sleeping next to one girl and cant stop thinking about the next... My past track record has not been the best with woman, so if I was to sleep with the girl I actually think I like, I would probably be over her pretty quickly...I have a real sickness.Besides see a psychologist (which I probably should) does anyone have any suggestions or insight?
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reader, citris +, writes (31 March 2008):
 First, stop sleeping with the girl you are sleeping with. Especially if she has no idea that it is simply a 'no strings attatched' situation for you. Secondly, realize that when a woman 'hooks up' with a guy that she has no intention of developing feelings for or a relationship with, she is generally choosing guys that are the opposite of what she would want/look for if she DID want a relationship. Personally I think this girl does like you, that much is obvious, however she is playing a very dangerous game. Stop and ask yourself if you want to be a part of that game. Are you losing respect for her knowing her actions and behaviour? If you were to sleep with her are you sure you would then forget her? Maybe the best thing to do is to find someone who's ready for what you are, and who you have a connection with. someone you can be on the same page with instead of dreaming of one thing while in bed with another.
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