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writes:An ex that I truly loved has now been trying to see me again.We became a long distance relationship (we only dated for 6 months but were friends for 3 months beforehand, and I was so deeply in love with him)...It ended because of the distance (although treated me badly as didn't explain to me it was over!) - and I was deeply hurt.Since this, we didn't speak for 6 months.However, we have since been in touch. He called me last week (for the first time in 2 months) to tell me he would like to visit me this weekend - he is in town. Because I had never had any closure with him, just hearing his voice caused all my old upset to surface, and I know that I became weak on the phone - the first time I'd shown him my emotions. I told him I didn't know whether to see him again, as I didn't want him to upset me. Unfortunately, my tone of voice was quivery as opposed to assertive!He was still keen to meet with me, and told me to think about it. I eventually agreed to see him again, curious to know why he now wanted to see me, and because I still loved him. In my heart of hearts, I wanted to hear him say he'd missed me and wanted to get back together. I know he still has feelings for me, but seems to be more immature/confused that I'd first thought. We agreed he would call me when he arrives in my country.Anyway, he is in my town now - here for 5 days, but hasn't called! Of course, I feel very let down, all over again.Can anyone offer an explanation as to why he is giving me the runaround? He's in his late 20s and I my early 30s.Have I blown it by showing too much emotion and scared him off for good this time?Thanks all.
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reader, jar2007 +, writes (19 January 2007):
 Agree with Ponungalungb, don't waste your time.
Sounds to me he was looking for somewhere to stay!
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (19 January 2007):
 When I first started reading your note, I thought I was reading another letter from a 13 - 15 year old. Then I realized how old you are.
Forget this guy. And if he calls again, hang up.
Your wasting way too much emotion on a dead beat.
Good luck!
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