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writes:Been dating a guy on and off for the last two months - he seems mad into me but I am not mad into him. I like the fact he has been spoiling me and buying me nice stuff.. But now I wonder is he trying to buy my love more?? I missed a few calls and came back to a txt message that made me a bit uncomfy - got a laptop for ya if you want xxx, now that's wonderful if he was my bf but he isn't and although I should be delighted - it creeped me out!! I don't know why..it just did. Like as if he is desperate to get with me..reason I am not with him and might I add he knows, he likes to tease my appearance but he took his sarcasm too far.. Are you a 32a in bra when I'm 34B.. Then he said you never come onto me sexually - I said of course not Jesus, am not sure of you!! You never want to see me and I want you bla bla bla like as if I'm the bad guy ... I held out for as long as I could then finally cracked and said I feel so disrespected by you!! For someone whose so mad into me what's with those remarks then ugh...he is also WAY too close friends with one of his female friends - he constantly takes her calls when we go out but told me doesn't fancy her - was there for the birth of her child - instead of the real dad - always babysits her now 13 yr old. I have a young baby and am on own and I now wonder if he wants to date single moms as his ex gf aborted two of his babies and his ex after that cheated him and got pregnant by another man so I wonder why his exes didn't like him v much to do that to him?? He is a generous nice guy but beginning to think he is better just as a friend ?? He also joked how once when he minded a friends baby how he picks up women that way and said he could mind my baby if I wanted!!! No way!!!! He said he can't change a pooey nappy so asks a random lady to, once she does it and he fancies her he asks for her phone no - cringe. He likes how a baby makes him APPEAR to be responsible but that just makes me think he is a jerk in disguise :( it's like as if my baby could be his meal ticket for the one ugh.. So he wonders now why I haven't bothered to see him or get in touch! He also stated how if he doesn't get sex after 3 months of dating he moves on so I flipped out and said no woman will go with you if you pressure her with time constraints... I am trying to like him to give him a chance but that shit he has already said, joke or no jokes bugs me - advice pls?? Thanks!! What is going on with this dude???
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (15 November 2010):
 There's no how, you just don't. Why are you still speaking to him at all?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks - I didn't see him at all...but he rung me from the US in the middle of a shop and the shop attendant then called me his wife!!! what the hell...he bought me something anyway..then txt me saying I got you so much cool stuff...so now I feel uncomfy again cos I know when he returns home he will use that as a way to see me...how do I not see him??
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reader, xanthic +, writes (7 November 2010):
No. There's absolutely no reason to, it's only going to make him think you're still interested.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTrue - tonight he wrote me an e-mail saying since you are so hard to reach I'm emailing you and if you want me to f off then I will... So obviously girls must have said that to him in the past? I felt he was pleading with me to be his man - he goes off to NY soon in a few days on hol and said he wanted my dress size which he already knows - guess he was using that as an excuse to see me - nuts! So now cos I feel a bit bad don't know whether I should try to see him before he goes or not??
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reader, xanthic +, writes (6 November 2010):
You can definitely still date, however you have to be a LOT more careful with who you choose. As for the creepy guy, especially considering the things he said about picking up women while babysitting etc., I would block his number and ignore him completely. Force him out of your life by any means necessary. He's clearly not the type to take a hint, even when you spell it out for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks hun - he says the reason he does all of that is cos he wants to spend the rest of his days with me...and that he is trying to get into my knickers that way or so he has claimed...so yeah and as for his friend he said he didn't fancy her..and I reckon that is the ONLY reason they haven't hooked up...but I don't like the fact that he has to report into her when he is out with me...its creepy and not fair to me. I think you are right - he can't undestand now why I have been ignoring his calls. I finally told him enough.. but he is still trying. He always rings at the wrong time like when I go to put the child to sleep etc. I am beginning to wonder whether you can still date after you have had children!
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reader, xanthic +, writes (6 November 2010):
Why should you give him another chance? He's had plenty of time to prove he's a decent guy, yet hasn't, because he's not. He's the type that wants what he wants when he wants it, and thinks giving you expensive things is the surefire way to get into your pants. The situation with his 'friend' seems kind of suspicious too, not to mention he doesn't even have the sense to know how rude it is to take calls while out with someone else. Drop him, he's clearly an ass.
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