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writes:Okay guys, tell me what you thinkThere is this awesome male teacher that used to be my band director in 6-8 grade, but now he is my freshman ELA teacher. We go to church together, and (i play the flute and he plays pretty much everything) perform together often. We see each other more as friends. We always talk after school. He told me he hopes to have a job in another school district next year, he said that he will have his own band there, and of course i'll be in it. We have made plans, that wherever he goes, i will go with him there. Oh yea, he is 39, never been married, and still a virgin. We are so much alike.. both so musical. so in to whta we do. Most people say we act like we are dating. And mom says he flirts with me alot.. =) I had a birthday party at the church anda i got a piano, and he played it, and he put his fingers inbetween mine like an "on-top hand hold" and played Fur Elise. He hugged me after, and said "i love you". I mean i really like him.. he is like my best friend. I've been to his house many times, and ridden in his car many times also. and i am very close to his parents. They told me that he told them so much about me.. and he told my sister that he loved me and thought the world of me, and thought i was an amazing girl for my age.. I think he is very attcrative, his blue eyes are beautiful!! My mom says we act like two people who are really in to each other but can't have each other. i mean really?? lol! I think he kinda has a crush on me. What do you guys think?? But really, he doesn't see me as his student, and I don't see him as a friend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2009): Im 26 and work two jobs, one as a History teaches at a local high school and the other as a professors aid at my college and I can tell you as a teacher at a high school I have gotten a lot of the whole puppy love thing from my students and the fluttering eyelashes.I don't have the sort of relationship with any of my students that you are talking about here, because it is unprofessional.I cant tell you what to do without knowing all the circumstances but I suggest that simply remain FRIENDS and nothing more. Remember you are fifteen years old and just at that point in your life most kids screw theirs up. Don't make a mistake that you will someday regret. Wait until you are eighteen and by that that time you will probably met some nice quarterback who you ll go to prom with.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionreply to kitty_3
i just turned 15
and yea is very christian.
I always thought he liked me just as a friend or student, but since alot of people tell me that we act like we are dating, i started to think he liked me. But Idk. thats why i asked this question. Buy i do feel like there is something more there than just friendship.
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reader, kitty_3 +, writes (21 October 2009):
 it is odd that the guy is 39 and still a virgin, though if he's never been married and devout Christian it could make some sense.
also, how old are you? i wouldn't necessarily call this guy a pedophile as it's natural for men to be attracted to slightly younger girls, but it's weird that he'd be showing so many signs to someone of such a young age.
is there any change that you're misunderstanding something here? it seems like he could also really value you as a musician and love you as a person/ student.
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reader, CaringGuy  + ♥, writes (21 October 2009):
Married Lady has hit this one right on the button. Read her point!
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reader, marriedlady + ♥, writes (21 October 2009):
 sweetie this is a clear case of pedophilia...that means guys who like girls who are too young, in an inappropriate way. This is a very, very inappropriate relationship. I am a 43 yr old teacher and i have a 16 year old male student that has a very big crush on me. I also go to church with him. He is cute and sweet and SIXTEEN! I would never go riding in my car alone with him etc. TOTALLY INAPPROPRIATE! Also what is your mother thinking? I would never let my 13 yr old daughter ride alone anywhere with a man. Not a teacher, deacon or pastor. My sister was molested at age 9 by a man from church. Unfortunatly you cannot automatically trust him because he is religious, or because he is a teacher. Please, please sweatheart...do not allow this to go on. Find a boy a lot closer to your own age. It is normal to have crushes on older men but this man should NOT be encouraging this. That lets me know he is not a good man. Please stop this insanity while you can. I will lose sleep over this post.
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reader, q1605 +, writes (21 October 2009):
 I am glad your mother is so happy you have found each other. Do me a favor and ask your dad about him. I am willing to bet he will have to be tied to a fence post to keep from ripping this guys arm off and beating him with it. I don't mean to rain on your parade but this guy is a creep. You are thinking like a chick and so is your mom. Listen to your dad's opinion because he knows what is going on in this creep's head. And what's going on in this creep's head are things you don't want to know.
If this guy is 39 and still a virgin, he is either the biggest liar on the face of the earth, or his creep factor doubles because of it. Next time you are tooling around with him on one of your non-dates ask him how much porn he has installed on his hard drive. Nothing wrong with porn so when he tells you, ask him what kind. This is the kind of guy that installs camera's in his bathroom to record girls using it.
And this leads me back where I started. Go with me on this one thing. So I can sleep at night after reading this. Tell your Dad. If he is OK with you hanging with this guy...(y'know if he is so great why are you asking about him??) but if your dad knows and he doesn't shut this down then I guess y'all have a nice life. But I know what will be the result of him finding out. This guy will turn up missing along with your dad's foot. It will be so far up this guys bum they'll have to amputate it from your dad's leg.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthe last sentance i mean i don't see him as a TEACHER. I see him more as a friend. lol Type-o
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