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writes:My boyfriend is into pretty much only BBW / chubby porn, but won't just admit he fancies big girls. he says it gets him off but I just have a gut feeling he prefers big girls. None of his exes have been too chubby though and I am slim. Hi calls me sexy all the time but I feel not curvy enough. My bum is but not my breasts. Can any men here tell me if it is possible to feel satisfied with a slim woman when you really like chubby girls? In the long run I mean.He also works with over weight people helping them to eat well and lose weight healthily.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (17 November 2014):
 I used to be a size 28 US. I had gastric bypass along with my (now ex) husband. HE LEFT ME for a woman who was bigger than I ever was after i got slim. He also gained all his weight back and she's gotten even bigger. (I know I saw them over the weekend)
If he wanted bigger (and some men do) he would have bigger.
It's funny what a guy likes to look at for PORN is often NOT what he wants IRL...
My husband talks about how big other women who I think are normal sized are and I feel really fat but he says I'm perfect. Funny how love makes us see someone as perfect even when they are not.
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reader, Ciar  + ♥, writes (16 November 2014):
 OP, there is a big difference between 'horny' and 'romantic attraction'. Porn satisfies the former.
I'm not surprised your boyfriend watches BBW porn but prefers more slender women in real life. This is quite normal really.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (15 November 2014):
 My husband "loves" redheads, I'm blond. He likes them curvy/chubby, I'm not. We have been together for 19 going on 20 years, married 17 - so OBVIOUSLY it can work.
And to be franks my husband isn't LOOKING like my ideal "fantasy" man either, but that doesn't mean I'm not still attracted to him.
LOTS of things turn on people. Maybe your man likes to look at the chubby porn because it's a little bit of a "taboo" for him, it's not what he sees every day at home. Variation, you know? Porn isn't a 100% translatable preference from fantasy to reality.
If he wanted a bigger girl then you, don't you think he has had amble chances over the years given his job? He is with you, because he LOVES you, AS you are.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (15 November 2014):
 If he actually was a BBW freak he would have sought out one. you're the one he picked so get over that sillyness.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (15 November 2014):
I think you have to accept the fact that you might not be his ultimate sexual fantasy. And that's okay!
I know my wife, if she could choose anyone in the world, would probably be with a Brazilian guy, but she loves me and is happy with me.
I'm very attracted to my wife, but wouldn't mind it if she was a bit curvier (she's 110 lbs).
There are 6 billion people in the world, its okay that you aren't the most attractive one. We're wired to wish that, which keeps us taking care of ourselves.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (15 November 2014):
 You are putting too much emphasis on this supposed sexual preference of his.
It's really quite simple. He has a relationship with you because he is attracted to you. Men, and women, as a general rule, do NOT enter relationships with people they are not attracted to.
Granted, I did start a relationship once with an overweight man, but we did talk about the weight being a problem, and I learned my lesson so I would never enter such a relationship again.
If being with a slim girl was some error on your boyfriends behalf, then he would have corrected that error since his previous relationships and not entered one with you.
What type of porn people watch is really of no relevance. It's fantasy. Logically it even makes sense, why would he watch porn with slim girls, he's got a slim girl in his bed at night (you), and doesn't seen to fantasize about what is reality. Fantasy and imagination is for the things that are not reality....
Loads of guys watch gay porn, for example, but they are straight. Porn really does not say much about your real life sexual preference, as a general rule. Personal example: I am bisexual, but I never watch lesbian porn because it just doesn't turn me on. Real life women turn me on, but in porn... eh, no. Just doesn't do the trick.
I would say, do not worry. He likes the way you look. This is not going to be a problem later on.
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