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writes:Hi, I'm in dire need of help. I've been dating my girlfriend for almost 2 years now, long distance as of right now, we see each other once every 2 months for a few days or so. I love her, I know I do, but about 5 months ago I broke up with her because I panicked about the future like do I really want to be with one person my whole life? And she's 2 years older than me so she's had more relationship experience than I and I just panicked, 2 weeks later we got back together. And we saw each other and things were fine. NOW, a few days ago she broke up with me so she could "explore her options" and figure things out. At the time I thought it was because she liked a new friend of hers...and I was hurt. But relieved as well because maybe I could really "live" now, you know? But since Saturday she's called me twice in tears saying she messed up an how sorry she is and she only loves and wants me and today we discussed getting back together. She wanted to slowly rebuild our relationship, not just hop back into it but I freaked out again and said maybe we should just stop talking and explained to her that I wasn't quite sure if we should get back together. And she said okay and we said goodbyes, but now I'm wondering if I made the right choice. I love and care about her, and I cry when I think about it too much, I just I'm not sure if I should worry about a relationship right now? Someone please help. Thank you.
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reader, brock24 +, writes (16 March 2014):
 If you can't picture your life with out her get back together. If you can then move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou Wish, no I'm not closeted, most of my family knows, people around me know, we just started talking over social media and eventually met up and we just liked each other is all.
Thank you both for the helpful answers :) we haven't talked, and I'm sure if its "meant to be" it will. Thank you.
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reader, KlassyKirsty +, writes (14 March 2014):
 If you are not ready to be monogamous, then I would leave this girl alone so you can leave her free to be with someone who will be an everlasting love, but she only dropped the "i like somebody else that is much closer to me" bombshell because you cast a big shadow of doubt in her mind as to whether you are the real deal, or either she said it to determine how you would respond. You need to ask yourself what gave you the idea to rebuild the relationship? You cannot just play it safe just because she is the lesser of 2 evils when it boils down to being with her only because you want a girl on the agenda. Perhaps you both are not cut out for long distance, it is not everyone's cup of tea.You both need to be on the same page as each other for it to work. You are clearly having doubts about being committed to the 1 person, which is telling me that you are still not done playing the field or are not in a good place to be. Your relationship is just a cycle of break up then make up, it is just indecisiveness and she is just choosing not to get her hopes up with you as you are giving her false hope. You should only get back into the relationship saddle once u feel you have got your act together and you are less likely to hurt others in the long run. Good Luck xxx
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reader, YouWish +, writes (14 March 2014):
 You made the right decision. You're long distance, and you need someone who is local. Also, she's not totally committed with this, as evidenced by her suddenly dropping you to "explore her options", which is flimsy code for having sex with others.
Your mind needs to firmly be on school now, and your options should stay local and in-person from now on.
Are you closeted at home, or was that not an issue in the choosing of a long distance relationship?
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