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writes:im havin a problem with my bf we have a child n one on the way just recently his dad passed away. i tried my best to be there for him but there's a time i get mad at him for a reason such as him wanting to go out all weekend he expects me to say yes to him when i dont he will lash out on me saying he's grieving and that im not helping him deal with it like im supposed to.i dont kno what more i can do seems to me he is manipulating me with his father's death.Everytime i dont want to do things his wayhe turns around making me feel awful were about to have our second child next month any suggestions? on how to deal with this mess Reply to this Question
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reader, petina1  +, writes (24 December 2010):
 He does need to get his grief out of the way. He may have used the weekends out as an excuse at first but now it seems he's found out what he's been missing, staying at home with a family. Let him have his time to grieve, then let him realize that the weekend outtings have to come to an end now. If he needs to come to terms about his fathers death and he can't talk to you then he must go and seek some grieving counselling via his GP. You don't want this escalating into a drinkin habit especially with another child on the way. Let him know that it is not acceptable any more to you. You can't help him grieving if he's not there with you can he?
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