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writes:My boyfriend and I have been fighting since forever. We love each other alot but we don't trust each other. He just lost his job so he's stressed out about that. I'm trying to be supportive but he just ignoreS me like if I'm not even there. Last night we got in a fight and he told me That it's time. we should take a break. Thismornig it sounded like he changed his mind he said we need to work together as a team so we don't lose each other cuz that's the way we are heading to with all this fighting. I love him but in a way I feel like we should take a break we are both stressed out. I am scared though that he might not want to get back with me that he will realize he doesn't really love me or need me anymore. Or that he will take this as an opportunity to mess around with other girls since I wont be around. Idk what to do
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2010): Why are you with him if you can't trust each other? And are fighting all the time? It really sounds like a horrible relationship to me, and that you are staying in it for the wrong reasons. Are you afraid to let go and be alone? Even though you do love each other, the truth is, if you don't trust him, you can't know whether or not he'll meet someone else (regardless if he loves you). And if he doesn't trust you, why be with someone who feels that way? Maybe you need to ask WHY does he feel that way? And if you love each other, WHY don't you trust him? I think the only thing you can do in this situation, is trust yourself and make your own decisions based on his actions. That might be working on things together, or that might be moving on, but its something you need to decide alone.
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reader, LMEJEW  +, writes (27 July 2010):
 me and myboyfriend was in the same situation, we thought a break would help our relationship because we lost trust and a realtionship is nothing without trust. we went on a break, and it didnt really work out, it made us worse. now were split. but if you think a break would work for you both, go ahead and try it. if you both love each other, im sure you'll find a way of working it out. good luck and i hope this has helped in some way :-) xx
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reader, Over..worried.  +, writes (27 July 2010):
 I think, taking a break ..... would be good.
Love and Trust go hand in hand. I believe you can not truly love some one if you can't even trust them. You both need a break from each other. To figure out how you really feel about each other. If you do take a break and he does mess around with a few girls and still decides that your the one he wants to be with isn't that a good thing? Or maybe you will meet someone and realize that Love is not enough if your always fighting and there's no trust.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2010): You shouldn't be scared of him "falling out of love" with you because, if he really does love you, that will not happen..that is if you play your cards right by not nagging and asking him when is he going to come back or how much time he needs to himself. If you guys agree to not see other people then he should stick to that agreement and not mess around with other women. The both of you really have to set some bounderies as to what each of you expect from each other.
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