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Boyfriend wants me to get tattoo of his name! Should I?

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Question - (3 May 2011) 9 Answers - (Newest, 14 May 2011)
A female Australia age 30-35, anonymous writes:

my partner Shane says he is not the marrying kind. but we do everything together. He was my fiurst boyfriund and I never want any other boyfriend. He does shift work and i get scared at night sometimes when he is not home. And I cant go out without him at night and i dont want to all i want to do is have some good relaxing times with him but it worries me when he drinks a lot when he is with his friends he sees at the weekends

He has these friends and they want to go spear fishing and he does that at a weekend and they go off and do this and it leaves me alone at the weekend and it seems like the whole weekend is wasted and he gets back and all his clothes stink of fish and sweat. I tried to talk to him about us doing things at the weekend together. Now he thinks I will be going to see men if he leaves me home alone at the weekend but he says spear fishing is relaxing. I do not want to go with him on the spear fishing because his friends do not have girl friends and i would be the only girl there. no thank you.

But now he has this stupid idea that he wants me to get a tattoo of his name on my arm to show that i am his. He says that will prove my love and i do not want to do this. I dont want to lose him but i dont know what to do. Should i get this tattoo on my arm?

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A female reader, Eyespy17 United States +, writes (14 May 2011):

Wow! What a mean thing for him to do to you. Aren't you even mORE glad you didn't get his name on you forever ?!?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2011):

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thank you for your replies everyone. Trancedrhythmear and Cindy Cares and Abella I liked your answers especially but all the answers were very good. Thank you to all of you because I really appreciated all your answers.

He just broke up with me in a hotrrible way. he turned up with this other girl in his car and all his spear fishing gear and she looked at me all smug from the car and he just stood at the door and asked for some things he left here. and I would not ask him in after that but I asked him, 'why is she in the car?' I know who she is. And he just pointed to her and said, 'my new girl friend' And I know she already has a tatoo on her ankle and one somewhere else she will not show anyone. so i spose she will get a tattoo for him if he asks. but I will not. I feel pretty horrible right now but I think maybe this is for the best? He cancelled a date we had for Wednesday this last week so sometime between then and now perhaps she became his girl friend but I dont know anymore. Sorry I was slow to respond but we were having a few problems

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (3 May 2011):

So_Very_Confused agony auntNO

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (3 May 2011):

eyeswideopen agony auntOnly if his nickname is "Mom".

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A male reader, Illithid United States +, writes (3 May 2011):

Illithid agony auntHe won't marry you, but he wants to brand you like cattle? Is he your boyfriend or your pimp?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2011):

Oh boy. HUGE red flag. His love is conditional. He will more than likely only love you back if you do this for him. He may drink yeah which isnt necessarily bad unless you have a reason to not trust him. However, his request is almost similar to a man asking a woman to show her man he loves her by getting breast implants. I find this quite disrespectful of him.

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (3 May 2011):

CindyCares agony aunt Heck no !

Do you know that Johnny Depp has a tattoo which says "Wino forever " ? It used to be "Winona forever" , then he and Winona Ryder split. That's the best he could come up with for erasing the unwanted memento without totally messing up his right arm's skin.

You risk having to go arounde for the rest of your life with a tattoo which says " Shame " , or "Shank "....

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A female reader, Abella United States +, writes (3 May 2011):

Abella agony auntA Tattoo will prove nothing and you should not agree to it if it is not what you want.

Besides, Shane has told you that he is not interested in marriage. So what happens if you marry someone else and your husband has to be reminded of that name Shane whenever you make love? No way. Try to negotiate some quality time with your Shane. Schedule one weekend in every four for some nice time together. Make it so much fun that he might consider two weekends with you instead of his spear fishing friends. Other wise his relationship will falter. You need time together and trust to build a relationship and Shane sure needs to learn to trust more and give you more of his attention

Good luck with this

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A female reader, dmartin89 United Kingdom +, writes (3 May 2011):

dmartin89 agony auntNO.

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