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Boyfriend turned gay, Now I cant seem to move on.. Please help!

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Question - (4 May 2006) 4 Answers - (Newest, 4 May 2006)
A female , anonymous writes:

Alright well let me start with my age. Im 15, yes i know its not very old. But i have had my share of relationship problems. I fell in love with this 18 year old kid. I absoulutly loved him...i really did. He felt the same way. He asked me out, but i couldnt say yes because i know my dad wouldnt allow it. But we were pretty much dating. We talked every night. Didnt miss a beat. But then one day he came and told me he was gay. I couldnt believe it. I didnt know what to do. Well it has been about 4 months now and all i think about is him, and what would have happened if he wasnt gay. Before i go to sleep i think of him. Every time i wake up, i think of him. He doesnt call me as much as he use to. I miss having someone to talk to whenever i have a problem. I miss having him tell me that he loves me and me knowing how he means it. I dont know what i should do. Should i move on? I know im young...and alot of people say that we dont know what love is...but i know how i feel. And what i feel is unexplainable. Its love.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2006):

i believe you love him and i believe he loves you but if he is truly gay then that love for you is friend love and im sure he wants to talk to u he prob is afraid of how you feel about him now.

almost every gay man has a girl that they dated in high school or college that help them admit to themselves that they were gay and they usualy end up being best friends afterword

just give it sometime and explain to him that u understand and that u still want to be his friend

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A reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2006):

You feel rejected and inferior that a man has chosen to be with a guy instead of you.

You need to accept that there is nothing wrong with you, and that he is not the guy for you.

Be around good friends, go out and enjoy yourself and make yourself take your mind off him. The more you do this the easier it will become and you'll eventually find you don't think about him all the time.

Also a point to mention, a boyfriend shouldn't be someone you should go to everytime you have a problem. It's unreasonable to expect a partner to be there in every emotional crisis. I think you need to work on developing your own emotional strength. When you do this you'll find dealing with situations with this much easier.

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A male reader, GLforever +, writes (4 May 2006):

GLforever agony auntI believe that you DO know what love is, but eventually you will have to move on romantically. Have you told him how you feel about him? Perhaps you and he could still remain very good friends.

It's best that he told you now that he was gay and didn't wait many years before breaking that news. It can be very difficult to be a gay teenager, but he did the right thing.

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A female reader, kissable100 +, writes (4 May 2006):

kissable100 agony auntmaybe he isnt... its jus sometime a nice way of dumping someone but in this case he may be. jus think in your head he was nice but i can find someone twice as nice if i go looking!

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