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writes:My boyfriend feels bad lately because of my presence.He says that he can feel me everywhere even when we're apart. I don't see him a lot but he still feels like he's in some kind of prison because of me.I love him a lot and I'm trying to change that feeling but I don't really know how...I don't call him a lot or nag him at all.Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2011): You can't do anything but prepare for the inevitable "it's over" conversation.Feeling you in his life when you are apart should be a good thing, not a prison-like experience.
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reader, mrg123  +, writes (16 April 2011):
 Are you insecure, do you constantly question him? The feeling I am getting from this is no to be honest but your side is one side. If your bf was writing this what would he say? He would have to come up with something a bit more convincing than his reported remarks here. So, assuming for the moment your version is the correct version, i'm tempted to conclude from this your bf actually has commitment issues which need addressing because he is projecting your presence 'everywhere' and is reacting against that. I would personally find feeling the presence of one I loved even when we were apart a pleasant experience but I suspect this sensation is not a genuine feeling (which can occur) but a projection of his own paranoia. How long have you been together?You cant change this because its his problem. I think you need to talk about this and get to the bottom of the issue which in my mind is your bf has issues which prompt a negative response to commitment. If they cant be resolved then you may have to rethink this relationship. Good luck!
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