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writes:Hiya lovlieslast weekend my bf and I planned a last minute roadtrip to his home town, he picked me up and we had to go to his place as he thought he left his wallet back at home. We got to his house, searched the whole place and could not find it, he started to get frustrated and threw his clothes around the room, kicking and throwing everything and punched the door and banged his head on the door. I tried my best to calm him but I felt quite nervous. We then walked back to my car and couldn't find the wallet in there either, he emptied out all the bags in the car (that I had neatly packed) trying to find his wallet. He then proceeded to punch a brick wall and scrape both his knuckles on a brick wall purposely. His knuckles were bleeding and skin had fallen off. We drove back to my place to search his car, I found his wallet straight away and he apologized for having to see him go psycho. Throughout this whole ordeal he did not hurt me physically or even blame me. He smokes weed frequently and during the road trip he said, you know I only was really angry because of the weed. (he's been cutting down his weed intake) was what he did emotional abuse or not?
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reader, chocoholicforever  +, writes (21 July 2011):
if his intent was to have an effect on you (such as to intimidate you or manipulate you) then yes it is emotional abuse.
if his intent has nothing to do with you - such as, if he would behave the same way if he was single and had no relationship partner - then he's self-destructive which is also very unhealthy. violence directed towards the self can later be re-directed towards other people so it's still a red flag for you, not to mention it's just not healthy for himself.
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reader, MonksDaBomb +, writes (20 July 2011):
 This is a major red flag to me. Yes, he did not hit or push you this time, but what about the next time? I'd say wait it out - maybe it was just a really bad moment for him - but if he does it again and/or show aggression to you, then get out of that relationship immediately!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2011): The boy needs to grow up. How can he be expected to stand by you during a difficult time if he can't even control himself over something as small as this?
Anger Management??
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