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writes: okay i am 15 years of age and so is my boyfriend...resently he had to move about 1,000 miles away! We want to keep this relationship going but we dont know how, or if it will work...we wont be able to see eachother because obviously we can not drive that far by ourselves lol (laugh out loud) so what do we do? We love eachother and we have been dating for about 7 monthes! we dont want to quit now because a few 1,000 miles is between us lol(laugh out loud)but our friends think we are crazy for even trying....I NEED HELP!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2008): your only 15 life is too short! this is a voice of experience i was in a long distance relationship at that age and your life ends up revolving round when you will next see them or hear from them. enjoy being young and spending time with your friends. you'll see someone will come along later that suits your lifestyle and lives closer. youve got plenty of time later to worry about things like phonebills and train or flight fares if its ment to be then maybe get back together in a couple of years. im now 21 and my partner is in the army and has been posted abroad its hard really hard. it expensive and heartbreaking. i would say until you had time to enjoy ur life a bit and be young don't get involved in a long distance relationship it takes over your life x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2008): then realy it might work 1000 miles isn't that far, now we have things like planes and trains so if you and your boyfriend wants to give it a go but if it won't work then it might be good idea to move on
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2008): Then follow your heart and do what your heart tells you to do but it might not work staying together as seeing as it will be hard for you two to keep seeing each other.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2008): i think that if you realy love him then give it a go but it might not work out because he could find somone else and so cud you if it dosent work out then end it because its gonna be difficult no matter what .
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2008): really. dont worry about, my bf lives far away. n im 17. if u both have email. use msn to keep in touch n have long chats so u feel close to one another! im not saying u wont have ups n downs ofc you will. every relationship does! but just make sure u really do love him!and im pretty sure ull be fine! as long as u keep in contact!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2008): My boyfriend just informed yesterday that he was suppost to be moving to New Brunswick today, and I live in Toronto. He told me that he's moving to New Brunswick and that he's ending what we have because he believes it's not easy to keep a long distance relationship. We both really honeslty love eachother sooo much, we have a rare bond most teenagers don't have. I am 16 and he is 17. I just left a message to him that I would be able to visit him this summer, 2008, but I didn't get a responce yet cause I just sent the message. We both really love eachother and I feel why break up are love, if we love eachother enough why not try hard enough to keep this going. I feel we can, I know we can, it's just wether he's willing to believe this will work. My suggestion is that you plan trips to visit him, and if you can't, talk to him on the phone and msn or write letters or something. Because I believe if you love someone enough you can keep it going.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2007): cant u like go over and see this guy coz am dating a guy in american and we see each other like every1 2 months we always on the fone and talk on msn i no ur only 15 thou but never give up ur lover if u lover him try get a saturday job thats wat i did i meet him like 1 year ago i want to move him wif him but i gotta get a visa i really dont no what to do but we love each other u have ti keep trying trust me it will work GOOD LUCK chickxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007): Hi hopeless and, helpless,
My boyfriend just moved a 1,000 miles away too. It's still hard for me to go on. Communicate on myspace if you have one. Talk on the phone, plan trips in the future.
Beleive me it works, I didnt want to break up with mine either, but I realyy had no choice but, to let go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2007): hi you well right now i am going through the same thing and me and my boyfriend are just trying to just work it out. i am also the same age as you and i know its really hard. all of my friends all think that i should just break up with him and even my parents do but you should just do what you feel like you should do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2007): and now the same thing is happening to me.
sigh.
it's heartbreaking.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 June 2007): hey im 15,the same thing happend to me, but he was suppossed to come bak. now hes not. and im lost without him. we're still in-love and we're waiting until we're 16 to run away.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 May 2007): Listen i know how you feel my bf just informed me today he is moving away(may 14,2007) All you can do is keep contact. Im talking to you because i need your personal advice. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 4 years and i guess i should mention I am thirteen i love him sooo much HELP and I am so srry for you i know how it feels.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2007): something similar is happening to my friend's almost boyfriend figure. (they're not going out but have liked each other for ages) and he's moving four states away.
just arrange visits often
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2006): well my bf has just moved 6000 miles away and we're still keeping going.. i'm 15 years of age and he is 17. i dont know what to do.. ahh! i wouldnt go out with him before BECAUSE i know he was moving, but we were sort of 'togehter' for about 7 months also.. i'm in england and he's gone to south africa.. kinda far. expensive to fly. wont see him til nxt xmas probably, because this xmas i have my exams straight after and i know if i'm with him i wont learn anything, and then in my summer (his winter hols) he's going to see his uncle in america.. and so i will see him HOPEFULLY nxt xmas.. i think we will be ok. he's probably moving back in 2 yeras for a gap yera and then university. am i an idiot? x
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2006): When I was fifteen my boyfriend of about six or seven months moved about 45 minutes away from me. I am now 19 and he's 20 we're still together and very much in love. I like to think that we have a special bond that not many teenagers find, especially at the age we were when we first started dating. In my opinion his move helped us a lot! Unlike most of the couples our age we could NEVER get sick of eachother, and when we were together we appreciated our time together. I am not sure what type of relationship you are in, but the best advice I can give you is to make sure you trust eachother. Given the circumstances you HAVE to believe that he loves you and give him the type of respect that you would like in return. It will be a difficult task for the both of you but if it's meant to be it will work out, and it will be worth every second of it.
The bond between my boyfriend and I is spectacular. I am starting college in a few weeks about 3,000 miles away from him, and in my heart I know that we'll make it through this as well. Just keep a positive and trusting attitude... and keep the relationship more fun and less serious. Good Luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2006): OMG THE -EXACT- THING MAY BE HAPPENING TO ME!! the same amount of months and im 15 and hes 15, ecept hes only moving about 20 minutes away:(, if he does... his parents and him are looking at the house right now.. he doesnt want to move so hes gonna say he hates the house and stuff :P haha i really hope he doesnt move :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2005): Dear H&HWOH
First things first: you are going to be neither hopeless nor helpless
without him. You're a person, too, you know! You have to make your own
decisions, whether he's nearby or not.
If you both want your feelings to remain strong and if you both work at
staying up-to-date with each other, you'll strengthen your emotional
bond and you will find a way to continue. When I say you have to work
at it, I mean it, too. You can't sit around feeling sad and sighing and
wishing things were different and have any chance of succeeding. It's
important to you both that you accept the reality of your situation
right now, and plan for it. Rather than moan and grizzle about the
unfairness of Life - it IS unfair; welcome to the club! - you and he
need to brainstorm how, realistically, you're going to stay in touch and
involved in each other's lives. Enter email. Enter text messaging.
Enter snail mail. Enter school holidays.
You're both going to be finishing school for the next couple of years,
so do be realistic with your plans! You can't possibly promise that
you'll write religiously, every single day, and still keep a)
interesting and b) keep up with your other obligations, but set up
something that will work for both of you. A long, weekly snail-mail
letter with photos, for example, so you can stay updated with each
other's hobbies and friends and interests. Buy pre-paid phone cards and
allow yourselves one phone call now and then, so that you can really
catch up and see if the spark remains. Send each other little
keepsakes. Text message when you can. Get ICQ if you don't already
have it. And email, of course, but make them count; don't take each
other for granted. If you're still in love in another seven months, or
another year, your parents might be willing to concede that you really
are a couple and might help out with the occasional visit until you're
old enough to drive.
Having said that, if the two of you actually do grow apart, don't be too
sad. It happens. And it might have happened whether or not you lived
apart. People mature and change and very few relationships that start at
the age of 14 continue into adulthood. Think of this as a way to grow.
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