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writes:Hello , so my boyfriend works a lot. He usually works 5-6 days a week and they are usually 9-12 hour shifts. I don't get to see him a lot. Only on his 1 or 2 days off. We live an hour away from each other. I work too but at a more flexible job schedule because I'm still in school. Lately though when he does have a day or two days off he wants to spend it with his friends and I'm okay with that like if he switched it around once in awhile. But now were going 3weeks to a month without seeing each other. It is getting really frustrating because now I have come the last priority. He is even already talking about leaving me for a guys trip when I had already made plans with him that weekend. He is constantly breaking plans lately with me so he can go see his friends. When I ask him to take off of work he won't. Yet he is able to move aside his busy schedule for his friends and not for me. Am I being unreasonable? I already talked to him about this and all he says is that I'm being irrational and that I have to understand that he has other things he wants to do besides see me. I've tried to pretend I'm super busy and don't have time for him either. However that just made things worse. I just don't understand why he can't include me. We talk everyday and the communication part is great but physically I never see him. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, petina1  +, writes (10 June 2014):
 Of his intentions and feelings for you were strong enough then wild horses wouldn't keep him away. Absence is supposed to make the heart grow stronger but he has got too complacent in this relationship. You seem a bit soft with him and he's taking advantage of that. Start to toughen up with him and then you'll find out how serious he is about this relationship. Good luck
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (6 June 2014):
 I would not be able to handle a relationship like this. Yes, you are last on his priority list. Yes, you have a right to feel upset about this. Yes, what he expects is unreasonable. You should start socializing more with your friends. Don't make him the centre of your universe. Have fun and explore other options. That's right. See what's out there. If you meet someone else, then let him know that he has competition. If he does not want to make you a priority, let him know that there are other men who are willing to make you a priority. So don't be sitting around waiting for him to include you in his plans. Make your own plans, look good, flirt, have a ball. Give him that "These boots are made for walking" kind of attitude. Turn the tables on him. Don't make yourself so available for him the next time he wants to see you.
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