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writes:If my boyfriend is looking at videos of him and his ex having sex should I confront him or leave?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2010): find out if he made videos of u both destroy them and then leave.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (12 July 2010):
 For heavens' sake, tell him to go back to his darn ex!!!
Everyone else is right: this is highly disrespectful toward you and not even worth discussing!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2010): Confront him, then leave him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2010): There is no reason worth hearing. There is no excuse. Leave. Just leave. He doesn't deserve anyone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2010): He is NOT watching this because your sex life is lacking, don't play into this manipulative control tactic by dressing sexy and trying to win him over. He ain't no prize, he isn't even in the booby prize category, he is trash, plain and simple and trash doesn't belong in your house or have a place in your head space. There is nothing to think about or to talk over, he is not worth it.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (12 July 2010):
 Confront him and give him a piece of your mind, and then leave.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (12 July 2010):
 Wow, I would be out the door i 3 seconds flat. I think that is utterly disrespectful to you and your relationship.
Leave him and his homemade porn and his right hand, who knows, he might even notice you left.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2010): I would leave him because he took videos of himself and his ex having sex. Just because they invented video cameras doesn't mean you go and make a sex tape, especially when they aren't even legally married....he might even put it up on the internet he's so enthralled with watching himself on tape.
He's warped end of discussion, get out, you can do better. Find a guy who respects women then you won't be having this issue....it is so disrespectful towards you as well to keep it let alone watch it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2010): I first want to say that I am deeply sorry for this, and i know this has to hurt you. Talk it over with him. Obviously something is missing in your sex life (if there is a sex life between you too) Maybe try getting all sexy dressed, and give him a total sex fantasy so he can think about that for weeks, other than...his ex. Maybe suggest that you and him make a sex video...(and delete that nasty old one!).
If you are too hurt to..even have sex with him, or even be nice too him. Then tell him whats up, tell him how fucked up it is, and...ask him why does he have to look at that, instead of you? I'm sure you'll know by his answer if hes worth your time or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2010): Confront him first.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (11 July 2010):
To be honest, if I thought my girlfriend was doing that, I think it would hurt enough for me to leave. This isn't just porn, this is him watching himself with his ex. That's pretty degrading towards you really. I'm not sure it's worth talking about at all. I think it might just be better for you to leave and find a guy not so hung up on his ex.
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reader, 3inchCelibate +, writes (11 July 2010):
 Is he watching them behind your back or more not trying to hide it from you?
It could be several reasons why he is watching him and his ex but it sort of depends on whether he is hoping you see them or hoping you don't as to the reason for it.
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