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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes: hi, Me and my boyfriend dating seven years. He never ever lies to me. last year he became friend with his co worker(female). They traveled together. He found that is more than a friendship with her. she feels same way. He talk to me about that honestly.I understood what he said to me and told him to make sure what he want next.even he didn't do any wrong.he had just a feeling for her and nothing els.I told him that he is free for everything.We had to move on. He didn't call me for a long time for 2 months.that time i called him every day and hour.I knew he was in hard times. He told me that it was just an attraction and needs a time and that was true. The lady left the job.after his confess It was a tough time for me too. Then he became vary guilty and don't wanted to show his face me again. We both love each other. I forget about all those thing but he can't overcome that guilt. He often cries. how should I tell him that this is not a crime. I ask him hundred time, is it there anything which i don't know yet???? but he answer me every time, no, I told you everything.( and Its not a big deal for me!!!!It happens.)I tried my best. we communicate a lot. but some times I lose my mind.I know he loves me but can't reconnect me what is he waiting for?
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (11 July 2010):
 I don't know what he's waiting for. Maybe he's simply given up on your relationship. Maybe you are clinging too hard and he is feeling suffocated. Maybe he has realized that he would prefer to be single.
Why is that you've been dating seven years and don't have a wedding date?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2010): Guilt is something only he can over come. Although you have forgiven him, he has not forgiven himself.
Best to stand by him, but give it a time limit. A year, two years etc. After that if he is still affected by it then you should move on. Do not put your life on hold for another person.
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