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anonymous
writes:My boyfriend is 17 years old, and I'm 15. We've been dating for a year and 3 months. Here in the past few months, we've been arguing and fighting a lot. He claims that I'm "obsessive and controlling" for the fact that I get upset when he goes with his friends or works late hours. Note that I only get to see my boyfriend once a week, because we go to different schools. Normally, that's on Sundays. If I don't see him but once a week, very rarely is it ever twice, how am I "obsessive and controlling"? He tends to break promises that he's made me and sometimes tells lies just to "shut me up"...he also hides stuff some too. I believe that we can work things out, and he doesn't have any other girls in mind...AT ALL. He's not the kind of guy that would cheat on me or go with other girls or anything like that. Help please? :( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2012): Of course it's normal to want to spend every free minute with your bf. But, that doesn't make it a healthy thing to do.
Your life shouldn't revolve around your bf. Go out with your friends, develop a hobby, get a job as soon as you can.
He needs time to socialize with his friends, and the fact that he has a job shows that he's responsible.
Try to talk to your bf every day or so, or email/text/etc. But when you go to different schools it generally means you live far enough away that getting together during the week is difficult. If you can't accept that, then yes, you are being obsessive and controlling.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2012): I agree with the above statement. I highly doubt this is going to work.
I would move on. You're still very young, you'll find someone else.
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reader, DV1 +, writes (15 November 2012):
 I think it's not going to work... sorry.
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