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writes:hi all :)long and complitcated story so bear with me okies i have been with my bf for 7 months and i recently found out he is bi-sexual.he hasnt told any of his family about it but i have told my mum and she said that she was going to tell his mum if i didnt so i ended up telling her,he broke up with me over it and now ive found out im pregnant.my question is should i tell him considering hes moving in less than 2 months? URGENT RESPONSES PLEASE x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2009): If I personally got a girl pregnant I would want to know. I'm a bi guy and I probably would have broke up with you to, but it would have been out of anger at the time and if I new they were pregnant then I would want to know and come back and make it work. Go to his house and say theres something I need to tell you out side of our relationship a third party, then say I'm pregnant. If your want to keep the baby tell him that too. Apoligize for telling your mom and his mom about him being bi.
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reader, Emilysanswers + ♥, writes (30 April 2009):
Wow. Outing him to your mum and his family was a HORRIBLE thing to do.
To be honest I would have dumped you too.
Tell your mum that it was NONE of her business if his family knew.
So you are going to be a single mum most likely.
You have to tell him and then work out how you will raise this child.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, cls1990 +, writes (30 April 2009):
 of course you should tell him, this baby is a part of him too and he deserves to know.
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reader, TELLULAH +, writes (30 April 2009):
 What exactlly has it got to do with your Mum if he is BI or not. And how could you have betrayed him like that. I have to say I'm not surprised he finished it honey. What were you thinking??
Of course you should tell him about the baby, he is the father. You should both decide what you are going to do. If your adult enough to have sex and get pregnant then you are old enough to make some tough decisions.
I'm sorry if I sound a bit tough, but I dont think you have really thought things through.
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (30 April 2009):
 Why did you tell your mum? And why did your mum say she was going to tell his mum?? Its nobodys buisness apart from your ex boyfriends, and yours if he chose to tell you. Its your fault that he has broken up with you, you have broken his trust so he did not want to be in a relationship with you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2009): Basically you hurt his trust, he confided something to you that was deeply personal and difficult, something he was likely not ready to share with his family yet. That he is bisexual is something that he should've been allowed to confide to his mother about on his own terms and if he chose not to that would've been his decision. He just needed your acceptance. Once your mother had made the threat to reveal you should've talked to him strait away, it would've given him the option of confiding it to his own mother himself on his own terms. That you went and told your mother may also make him feel like you thought there was something wrong with him, and if that's not true if you don't have an issue with his sexuality you should tell him you accept it and sincerely apologize to him.
I think and some may disagree he has a right to know because he's the father and he has a right to be involved in his own child's life. I think its best to be honest. Trust has to be earned you've already hurt his and you will have to work to earn it back (which may not even be possible) but the only way to do that is to be honest. The two of you and your families need to discuss what you are going to do, if you haven't told your own mom please do so! You need to receive proper prenatal care if you choose to go through with the pregnancy and if you choose not to you will need your family to support you through an adoption or abortion or whatever option you choose. An abortion needs to be carried out by a trained professional.
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