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writes:BF of 9yrs has just recovered from a broken leg and has bought thank you gifts for those who helped him-apart from ME!!!! God I helped him the most and no gift required but in view of the others receiving something I just feel bloody hurt!! Would you? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 November 2014): I think he is giving thank you gifts to those who helped him, but may have overlooked you because he expected to you help no matter what. I don't think this necessarily means he doesn't appreciate all your help, it may just be him being stupid and taking you for granted. Might not be malicious at all.
Also, maybe others are right when they say he may be planning on something bigger for you at the holidays, but I would not put my hopes in that.
Please sit down and have a (calm!) discussion telling him that you feel hurt that all these others received a thank you present, but you did not. Ask him if he realized this and if not, give him a chance to make it up to you. Did he intend to leave you out, or does he feel that you did not help over and above what you normally do for him? Ask & get some answers (but be calm please!)
I think it sounds like an oversight, though a bad one! Let us know what happens!
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (6 November 2014):
 does he thank you in other ways? verbally? intimacy wise/being sweet to you?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 November 2014):
 I would really be rather insulted if my husband purchased a "thank you gift" for me the same as other friends. I am different.
I care for him all the time and I do not need a gift to say thank you to me.
Nine years is a long time together.... perhaps he just feels that it's your job not your choice to care for a disabled significant other.
did you ask him why he felt it necessary to thank friends but not you?
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reader, cmarieky +, writes (5 November 2014):
Considering a lot of holidays are right around the corner I won't mention it til they are over. He could possibly be setting yours aside. But if u get nothing special it's okay. Perhaps in his mind he knew n expected u to be there n not them. But if it bothers u too much ask him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 November 2014): Takes you for granted and doesn't care? That's what springs to my mind! Ask him outright and if you're not happy end the relationship-what a self-entered man he is! You deserve better.
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