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Boyfriend becoming a control freak!

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Question - (30 April 2011) 2 Answers - (Newest, 1 May 2011)
A age 30-35, anonymous writes:

i think my bf is becoming a control freak. we have been seeing each other for 13 months and he has been great, nothing like as controlative as he has been in the last 3 months. he is buying me clothes, telling me what to wear, telling me how to wear my hair. we is telling me what to do with problems at work. and get this, he has opened a new bank account which he puts some money in every month. he is using this account for my boob job, thats right, my boob job, if i ever wanted one.

what should i do about him?

why is he being such a control freak?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2011):

Does he get mad or passive-aggressive if you don't do what he "tells" you to? And is he serious about the boob job??? If he's not kidding, that's insane. Anyone who thinks it's ok to expect their partners to change his/her body unnaturally has got problems. Even if he is kidding, that's still not ok because it's still indirectly saying he prefers something other than how you are.

I would be careful and keep my distance. See how he reacts when you tell him you're not comfortable with the way he's telling you what to do.

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A female reader, KeighleySky United Kingdom +, writes (1 May 2011):

KeighleySky agony aunti think you should tell him no. Tell him that he's hurting you with what he's doing.

This is ridiculous, opening a bank account in case you want a boob job. I think you need to take a stand and tell him that if he doesn't calm down your going to leave him.

Seriously honey i think you should consider leaving him if he continues what hes doing, a guy like this will only get worse.

I am so shocked that he's opened a bank account 'just in case'. Personally i would have slapped him for that.

You need to take control now before it's too late, don't do what he tells you too!

It'll only gets worse if you do that.

Tell him it's your body, not his and you can do what you please with it. And you dont want to wear what he buys for you.

I mean there's a difference between suggesting 'why dont you try your hair like this' but its different when hes telling you.

Stand up for yourself, girl!!

Hope i helped :) x

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