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Boyfriend asked me to stop the handjob I was giving him, because he didnt want to ejaculate and make a mess!

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Question - (27 May 2012) 4 Answers - (Newest, 28 May 2012)
A female Canada age 30-35, anonymous writes:

We were making out on his bed and it was intense ....he fingered me..he always cares a lot about my pleasure and makes sure to please me...and so far i never did anything for him...he'd say he just loves seeing me happy because it makes him happy..but i still felt bad

So I've decided to give him a HJ, I'm not very experienced but i did what i felt was right to do and started going faster and faster 2-3 mins later if not less he asked me to stop and just continued kissing me...after when i asked him why he wanted me to stop he said its because he was about to cum...so why wouldn't he let me finish him? he also said it's because of the mess but i wonder if he lied and i was just bad

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A male reader, crazydirtyred United States +, writes (28 May 2012):

You can always ask him if it feels good, or talk to him about it before you do it, letting him know you really want to do it. Ask him to guide your hand or let you know if he wants it slower, faster, harder, etc. It really can get messy so that may have been the case, just make sure to have something around to clean up after, or to catch it in. Either way communicating with him will be the most helpful thing in this case.

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A male reader, N91 United Kingdom +, writes (27 May 2012):

N91 agony auntIf it lasts too long it can get very sensitive and painful, that doesn't necessarily mean you're doing a bad job, it just means it's gone on too long.

And yes, it can make a bit of a mess, so maybe he was being genuine, who knows besides him?

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (27 May 2012):

Honeypie agony auntCould be that it was starting to get more painful the pleasurable and he didn't want to ruin the moment.

Or maybe he didn't really want to make a mess.

Try it in the shower next time.

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A male reader, Jmtmj Australia +, writes (27 May 2012):

Jmtmj agony auntMaybe he lied, maybe he didn't- does it really matter? You can't expect to be awesome at something you're not experienced at- and he doesn't expect you to be either.

It takes time to figure these things out- so just have fun aye.

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