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anonymous
writes:I found out my boyfriend is taking me to the same place he took his ex for vday 5 years ago. how do i know this his sister accidentally mentioned it to me, said oh i didn't know he is taking you to the same place he went wit his ex.Would you all say that he is not that serious with me? we have been together for almost 2 years now or has he always had feelings for the ex?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 February 2016):
 Five years ago? Five years ago and you need to question a two year relationship? Really? Are you insecure in this relationship? Have you reasons to be? If not then go for dinner, enjoy the food, the company and your night. Appreciate that he is making an effort to take you out. I don't even know why his sister would mention that.
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (10 February 2016):
 Ah men are from Venus-Woman from Mars, aren't they? I mean of all the restaurants right! I see what you are saying but I think it is more a case of him wanting to take you somewhere nice. If he mentions her whilst there...
"Ahem...cheque please"
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2016): My boyfriend has a few favorite restaurants, and I find them quite lovely romantic places. He has taken other dates there, and I don't care. The experience is new and it's with me. He shovels out a ton of money on exquisite food and wine. It's not for them, it's for me.
If it's a wonderful place, enjoy it. It's apparently the most romantic place he knows, and it's still special too him in spite of his ex. She can't take away what he likes. Unless she owns the joint; I don't understand your concern.
What was his sister's motive behind telling you anyway? Maybe she wants to see your reaction. If you're a sweet and gracious girlfriend, or a spoiled brat. He can't erase and delete all evidence and history of places and events that included his ex to make you secure in your relationship.
If he wants to take you on an exotic island vacation to Hawaii or Tahiti; are you going to turn it down, if he took his ex there first?
Grow up!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2016): He probably just likes the food there! Enjoy it :)
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (9 February 2016):
Maybe it is his favorite restaurant. I shared several restaurants with different men I dated, because they were freaking awesome.
I would not read anything at all into it
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2016): I would just think that it must be a good romantic resteraunt, I don't think he booked it because he was thinking of her!
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reader, MissKin  +, writes (9 February 2016):
 Maybe he just likes the food there? If he took her there five years ago does he even remember taking her there? If I couldn't go anywhere with my bf if I'd been there with an ex, I wouldn't be allowed at my favourite restaurants, the cinema, the train station... My house.
I don't think it means anything about how he feels for his ex but it does say a lot about your insecurities in regards to his feelings for you and the solidity of your relationship. Maybe you should worry about why you're thinking so much into it?
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