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writes:Hello. I need some advice. I just started seeing this guy, I mean, we've been on a few dates and seem to get along very well. However he's self confessed to having had a lot of girlfriends, and a lot of one night stands. He's 28. My question is this. If you choose to date someone who has had a lot of women in his life, how do you know you're not just another conquest? Guys like this, is their charm well practiced? What would make me different from all the other women, and aren't I considered easily replaceable (if we were actually to get in a relationship) ? I like him, and want to continue to get to know him, but I am trying to proceed with caution.
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (22 November 2009):
 Sounds a bit like an early me to some degree. You will likely be just another, but if you are adventurous and fairly sexually liberated, go ahead and have some fun. You would not be the first young woman to enjoy some sexual freedom, but if you are seeking a man of substance or a longtime relationship, you are rolling the dice with this guy, based on your description.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (22 November 2009):
 The best thing you can do is be yourself, be a good girlfriend, and hope for the best. Not all relationships last, and a year from now you may have a different perspective on this one. I believe that each relationship teaches us something about ourselves, so even if it doesn't work out, it was still time well spent. Enjoy yourself and keep your eyes open.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2009): I think you've said it best "proceed with caution"! I myself have been in the same boat and unfortunately it got to be too much and I had to leave because his addiction to bar girls re-surfaced. However, I think this "conquering" women thing is just a reflection of their maturity, they can grow out of it, or can continue throughout their life ie- never growing up.
I wouldn't dismiss him simply because of the past. He may have realised his mistakes. However, proceed with caution, and at the first , or maybe even second , sign that his habits have not stopped, I would be moving on without a backwards glance.
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