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writes:ok so my friend told me the other day that she cheated on her bf about a year ago with some guy she met through another friend. so anyway she finished it with the "guy" and ended up getting pregnant. i believe the baby is her bf's. however now she is getting bored of her bf again and is thinking about going with the "guy" again. her bf is boring and has no get up and go, but i don't think he deserves to be treated like this. however she is my best friend so i can't tell him, even though he is a friend as well. what would you do? i can't really tell her what to do can i? but i feel awkward when she talks about the "guy". wouldn't it be best for her and her bf to break up rather then sleep with someone else? especially if they are not happy, which i don't think they have been for a long time now.
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (22 February 2009):
aunty_rach is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell she told me today that she has broken up with him. so i guess that's it.
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (21 February 2009):
 I had a best friend who at the time was in a similar situation as your friend at that time i did not know what to do because i did not want to lose my friend and yet i could not stand by and see her hurt her b/f who was also a friend to me, in the end i told her if she did not come clean as to what she was doing i would tell him she never spoke to me for about 2 months and i waited till we spoke again and asked her what was the situation now she told me she had told him and that they split and we remained friends for a long time after, it really is up to you what you say if she is a close friend then you should be able to voice your concerns and i think your right she should dump the b/f if she has been with him off and on and it is still not working it sounds as if it may never work. He will need support too because he is about to become a father and then has to cope with a possible break up from her it all sounds a mess to be honest and one you could do without being involved in but seeing as you are all friends i feel i would have to say something at the end of the day it is up to her and her choice what she decides to do and hopefully she will do the decent thing and tell him.
Gina
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reader, TasteofIndia  + ♥, writes (20 February 2009):
 In her situation, it would probably be best for her to break up with her boyfriend. If she has the urge to cheat and is unhappy in her relationship, she shouldn't be in it. Even if she is pregnant with his child. However, you should encourage her to stay friendly with the guy, since he is the Father. There's no changing that fact.
You're in a sticky position. You're right - you can't tell her what to do. The most you can do is be there for her, support her and offer advice when she asks for it. It is her life, her business and her mistakes. I would also be supportive towards her boyfriend, it sounds like he's in for a rough ride with this one!
Good luck, sweetness!
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