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writes:Hi, Firstly just before I write this I would like to say that any advice, comments or thoughts would be greatly appreciated =]Right okay so my problem. Well recently I bumped into an old ‘friend’. I am only 18 and so is he. We used to be very good friends when we were little – we practically grew up together, although I do think back now and wonder how we were good mates we never agreed on anything and were always dead competitive with each other and the only same interests we had was being mischievous. But either way. I still cherished him as a best friend and he me. So now six years since I last saw him I suddenly bumped into him again. I didn’t recognise him at first but he recognised me. He smiled at me as he walked past. Then I realised who it was and I was so shocked at how much he had changed I just stood there in shock.I never had the guts to speak to him and I don’t know why. It had just shocked me how much he had grown up. I last saw him as a little boy and now he was a man. So since that time I had been going over that few minutes in my head so many times and kept getting annoyed with myself for not saying anything to him. The problem is we are both rather stubborn and most likely believe that the other should come speak first. So then a few months later I see him again (I know, don’t see each other for six years then I see him twice!). This time though I knew that I must speak to him other wise I would regret it. I finally managed to pluck up the courage to go speak to him and went over and said hello. He just stared at me a bit well erm shocked? So I asked if he recognised me and he shuck his head! So I asked if it was him and he nodded and then I said that he knows who I am then so we stud there until eventually he admitted to it and then he walked off. And that’s really confused me! Why was he acting so cold? why had I made him ashamed to know me? He smiled at me last time I saw him now his. What had happened in that space of time? He had never hurt me like that before, even when we were little. I would of rather him told me to fuck off then said he didn’t know me. What have I done? He’s on my mind constantly, me trying to figure out why he acted like he did. But I just don’t know. People keep telling me to forget about him that he’s not worth the bother but I cant he was a big part of my life. Any help? Views? Comments? Advice? ANYTHING. Just to help me get him out of my head =’( Thanks.
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reader, Irish49  + ♥, writes (21 March 2007):
 People's personalities change as they grow and develop into adults. Childhood friendships are sometimes forgotten and some people move on to other friendships, in their life. This is just the way it is. You can be negative about this, dwell on it forever and let it take you down into the depths of despair or you can do what your friends suggested...forget it! One thing we have to remember as humans that no matter what, we can't always assume other people think, do and feel the way we do. If he didn't show any indicators that he didn't want ro resume an old friendship, then drop this worrisome way of thinking and move on. However, if you do see him again, just be positive, happy and nice. Say hi and ease into a light conversation, if he shows signs of wanting that. If not, acceptance and respect, on your part is crucial. Accept that there is nothing you can do about it. Good luck, hun and accept that this is just the way it is.
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reader, Having Problems??? +, writes (21 March 2007):
hi i understand how you feel and totally get why you would be so angry with him. people just grow apart that is usually what happens and generally people move on and others ask why they've become so distant and why they wont admit to being friends before. It's not your fault as you have done nothing wrong most people do those things to act cool in front of so called "best m8's" and think they are being smart if not that then you possibly caught him on a wrong day either way you should not blame yourself for his behaviour as he clearly cannot be much of a friend if the reasons above dont relate to the truth. i hope i have helped you and i also hope u will move on or confront him in some way about his behaviour as noone should be treated in that way.
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reader, banannine +, writes (21 March 2007):
 hey,
dont worry! maybe when you guys grew apart, he thought it was your faut. maybe he blaims you for you guys not talking for 6 years. anythings possible. It could be that he is as stuborn as you said, and to add salt to the wound, you didnt talk to hin last time. its not your fault, people have a diffent way of sing things. he is 6 years ago and somebody you probably dont know anymore. and thats ok... there will be others. yo unever know, you may see him again and he will explain that he was just having a really bad day. =)
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