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26-29,
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writes:As the title said, we've been out a few times already. Hasn't really been much of a spark but it seems like given time it could go somewhere. However this last time I asked her out I was cancelled on, not last minute but still cancelled on regardless with no reschedule attempt. At this point, I know what's up. I'm not a quitter however. My response: "it's all good, we can do something another time ??". Basically says I'm not giving up but I'm not reaching either. Ball is in her court now, I'm not going to press the issue. I might try again at some point, but it's definitely going to be a while. My gut is almost never wrong, and I'm sure I've made the right choice. I just want someone to back me up on this. You think this was the right move?
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reader, kenny  + ♥, writes (19 November 2018):
 I agree with all the good advice from the other posts, you did the right thing and you certainly not a quitter. You have said do something another time and that fine, as you say the ball is in her court.
But you say that you might try again at some point. If you don't hear anything from her i would strongly advise against this, infact i would delete her number and move on and find someone that make your heart sing. Good luck.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious + ♥, writes (18 November 2018):
 I think you handled it just right. You left the door open in case the cancellation was for a genuine reason and she would actually like to see you again, but you didn't press it.
However, I do wonder why, at your young age, you would keep seeing someone with whom you do not feel any "spark". You are in your 20s. You are SUPPOSED to feel a spark with dates.
In your shoes I would not bother contacting her again and move on to someone with whom you have a better connection.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (18 November 2018):
 So, the guys think one thing and the women think another (based off the first 3 responses, CW, N91 & HP) plus me:
I think you should give her a chance to reschedule, but only a week. If she doesn't by then, don't text her again, just accept it and move on.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (18 November 2018):
 Darn it!! EDIT..
I wrote "If she DOESN'T however reach out, I would TRY anything with this one, I'd just move on - block, delete, forget."
It should have been:
"If she DOESN'T however reach out, I wouldn't TRY anything with this one, I'd just move on - block, delete, forget.
Because no, don't chase after someone who aren't interested. It's a waste of your time, her time and it can come across as creepy. Like you can't READ the situation and take a subtle hint.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (18 November 2018):
Yep I'm with N91 and Code Warrior,
If she was interested, she would make DARN sure to either reschedule asap or at least make sure she keep you "interested".
So yes, It was a nice way to let her know that you are interested but you won't chase her.
If she DOESN'T however reach out, I would TRY anything with this one, I'd just move on - block, delete, forget.
I absolutely agree with CW that this isn't about being a "quitter" - it's about ACCEPTING reality. And reality is that she isn't all THAT interested and time won't change that. Quitting isn't always a bad thing. Like quite a bad habit, like smoking or KNOWING when to "quit".
Don't waste your time, energy and effort on something lurk warm.
If you can find ONE girl who have qualities you like, you can find another.
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reader, N91 +, writes (18 November 2018):
 If she was interested she would of rescheduled. Move on.
Why would you even want to pursue someone that you don’t have ‘sparks’ with? The whole point in having a partner is because they excite you.
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