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Because of my vomiting and not eating my boyriend thinks I have an eating disorder. I don't agree.

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Question - (11 November 2008) 7 Answers - (Newest, 11 November 2008)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, *iobhanKay_x writes:

hey,

im 16, female and 5"3

in the last 3weeks ive changed what i eat a lot.

it started where i threw up everything i ate, this lasted for 1 and a half weeks during this period itriedd to throw up half of what i ate but i just ended up throwing up most of it anyway. then i started starving myself and throwing up now and again, i wake up at 6:30am and wouldn't eat untill maybe 6 ot 7pm. id usually eat a few slices of ham or turkey and a yogurt and sometimes a low fat ready meal. i check the fat on everything i do eat and i ahve now started to not eat anything all together. i feel like i don't need food, i feel like i get hungry because i am greedy. in the past 3weeks i have lost around a stone. i was a size 14 but now my 14 jeans are baggy but size 12 is still a tight.

my boyfriend caught me being sick and now thinks i have an eating disorder, but i think im in control of it, that i will eat if i want to.. i just don't want to?

he went to the doctors about me and brought back an information leaflet which said a lot of eating disorders are caused by traumatic experiences such as death. divorce, rape, bully's ect..

well when i was 11 my parents got a divorce, when i was 12 i was raped and got pregnant from this, when i was 13 i had a stillbirth when i was 14 my mum killed herself, and now i have a step mum and live with her my dad and her daughter. and to be honest my dad doesn't really pay much attention to me anymore. he hasn't noticed my weight loss or the fact i cry a lot of the time, im hurling into a depression that i cant seem to climb out of..

today ive being looking and thinking about maybe trying the cabbage soup diet.

any adivce or opinions may help ?

i dont think i have an eating disorder.. but i do need help on loosing weight and maybe trying to pull myself together

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A reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008):

This may well be the beginning of an eating disorder. And a lot of people who have one don't realise it until it's very late and they're painfully thin, and even then they can't seem to stop. If you just want to lose weight then dieting and fasting are not the way to go about it - a balanced diet and regular exercise are the best way to get in shape (just don't overdo it!)

But it does sound like the early stages of an eating disorder, so see a doctor before it gets worse.

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A female reader, Fairy_Lu United Kingdom +, writes (11 November 2008):

Fairy_Lu agony auntWell if you dont think you have an eating diorder and your boyfriend thinks you do then hun sounds like you have one you just dont see it that way.

You know the best way to loose weight? Its too eat 3 meals a day every day, because when you skip meals your body goes into starvation mode and everything you eat it automaticaly gets put on as your body does not know when it will eat again.

Starviing yourself throwing up what you eat, sure you will loose the weight but alogn with that your hair and nails will become brittle and lifeless your skin will become spotty and dull, oh yeah your teeth will rot from the acid from your vomit oh yeah and did i forget to mention your organs will fail and eventually you will die. Think im joking there was a model last year who livied on tomatos and apples she survivied on the diet 4 2 weeks she is now dead.Im a moderatior for a forum with people with eating disorders ect and trust me this is an addiction you dont want.

You need help see your doctor or a counsellor dont waste your life

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A female reader, Emilysanswers United Kingdom +, writes (11 November 2008):

The fact you've given us all these details about how you have had a crap life and that is why you want to throw up your meals doesn't exactly paint a picture of a girl who wants to drop a couple of pounds in a healthy way.

Your boyfriend is right.

Anyone who thinks they can control the cycle of obsessing over food to the point where they think throwing it up is acceptable, clearly has an eating disorder.

Eat sensibly and exercise by all means but seek help for all your problems and don't obsess over calories.

Good Luck!! xx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008):

Please please be careful. You are young and your body is still growing and developing aged 16. Your habits over the last 3 weeks have resemebled those of a person with an eating disorder (bullima and anorexia) and are very dangerous.

I reccomend that you seek out a healthy eating plan, not fad diets like the cabbage soup diet. Im sorry to hear about your troubled past. I think talking about your past with counsellor/person you trust might help a lot.

Take care x

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2008):

YES 100% you have an eating disorder. Eating and throwing up IS an eating disorder. You might be in control of it but it's still a disorder that will be damaging your health and well being. If you need to lose weight you should never not eat, go hungry or throw up -- just eat good foods and exercise daily. You are starving yourself and if you continue you will damage your internal organs and your general health which can cause a host of problems. Despite what you think you do NEED food - we all do. You can't keep surviving without it.

You should stop doing this immediately and if you can't you should seek help. There is no point starving yourself to death which is what may well happen if you don't stop. You might think you'll just do it a bit more until you've lost a bit more weight but DON'T as you risk seriously damaging your internal organs and your life.

It would be a very good idea to go to a doctor and explain your situation as you have here.

I am very sorry to hear of the troubles you have had in the past and that your father is mostly absent. Your life like every other is special so please don't throw it away.

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A female reader, MuffinGirl Netherlands +, writes (11 November 2008):

MuffinGirl agony auntTerrible! I think your boyfriend is right. And you know that, but you would deny everytime someone mention it. You should eat more fruit, vagetable, rice, fishes.. You need to go to the social worker or someone who can helps you with your problems, especially because you were raped. Please do that. You're not alone on the world.. you have good boyfriend who cares about you more than you might think. You should sociate with people which you like and who cares about you(boyfriend, friends..). Vomiting can destroy your body, teeth, stomach.. Your disease or obsession is bulimia. So immediately you HAVE TO STOP vomiting and starving yourself before it's too late! Start eating healthier food, read articles on internet or magazines about what healthy food is, and take one hour every day for excercising (running, swimming- if you have that chance,...) and you will lose your weight on a healthy way. You're young, you have to be friendly with your body.. You will always have just one.

Good luck.

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A male reader, Austinalive United States +, writes (11 November 2008):

He can't tell you if you have an eating disorder, but guess what? Neither you. Go to a doctor.

Most teenagers have disorders without knowing, or even worse, denying.

So if you see people worrying about you don't take light, it might be something.

good luck

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