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anonymous
writes:Throughout my life i've never really met a girl i thought i would like to be with. I've had friends and indeed friends who are girls but just never met anyone i could ever see as my girlfriend.I'm at the end of my first year at college and since around march i've had a sort of friendly relationship with a girl in my law class. As time went on i began to like her more and more, she's really smart and pretty and we always talk about interesting things rather than random stuff like with a lot of my friends. I really don't know how to quantify what i feel, when i'm talking to her i just feel so content, so happy no matter what's going on in my life. i feel a little odd saying it but i once dreamt that i was just sitting with her on the beach watching the sunset and it was sort of at that time that i realised i really, really liked her.My problem is i've never really got to know her outside of lessons; we're always friendly when we're sitting together in class but for some reason i just never managed to get to that point where i would be comfortable with asking her out properly, despite wanting to for a very long time. We only have two weeks left before summer and it's almost certain that we won't end up in the same class next year.Basically i just don't know whether to ask her out now while i can but risk rejection, pretty much destroying any chance of a relationship after summer, or wait and hope that we end up together somehow after summer. I don't think i'd be able to just find her and talk to her during summer, we dont really share any friends or anything like that.Many thanks for any help, sorry if the questions seems a little silly but i'm just really worried. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2012): I would try, go for it. You're lucky, me and my bf see each other 2 out of 12 mnths. So make the first move.
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reader, Blod +, writes (28 June 2012):
 This is your chance - go for it! What have you really got to lose? Not asking her and her saying no both mount to the same result anyway. It's the things that you don't do that you regret, and you'll be tormented by 'what ifs' throughout the summer if you don't ask. You've got a chance for some good times, don't let your doubts stand in the way!
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2012): What I would say is that yes, you absolutely should ask her out! Of course it is a tad intimidating, because for sure I've never been able to blatantly blurt out such a thing to a girl I don't know extremely well, but it certainly is easier when you get really comfortable with her. My advice is, if you are nervous about just dropping the question, perhaps just ask her to hang out! Get to know her more! Hanging out is like dating, but platonic (usually) and will give you a chance to insert yourself more into her life and mind, and also give you a chance to flirt a little to show you like her. Some people would mow me down for such a suggestion but hey, we all view things differently. Personally, I'd rather date a friend than just some girl. Or you could do what most people think is right and just ask her out blatantly, but it does put you in an awkward spot for rejection. And hey, life's too short to always wonder "what if?", so don't worry about rejection. I've certainly been rejected before, but at least then you can go to bed at night knowing the truth and knowing you did all you could do. But back to Plan A, hanging out will also help her decide if she really likes you, too, so you won't end up in a relationship neither anticipated to be incompatible. Hanging out can be fun things like bowling, an arcade, mini golf, video games, walking around the neighborhood, a...picnic? Haha! You sound like a solid dude, bro, and I wish the best for you! Go out there and get her! Don't let her miss out on you =)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2012): Ask her out for dinner or coffee. Make sure you pay. While you are sitting and chatting, tell her that you like her, that you would like to stay in contact over the summer, and find out what her relationship status is (she could be in a long distance relationship and may not have mentioned it.) so you know whether she is single.
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