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writes:A female called lorna who fancied me at school was really into me, but I wasn't into her as much, as back then I wasn't into girls, not because I was gay but they were more trouble than they were worth. I recently saw her again at a working men's club working behind the bar and catched up with her, she told me she had a boyfriend and she was working at the club to earn some cash, we exchanged facebook messages and accepted each other's friend requests and everything was going well, until her friend sturred the pot and told her untrue things about me.I found myself blocked from her facebook. I don't know if I should ask her face to face what's up, anyway her pal has it in for me for some reason and doesn't like me.Ive only asked lorna how her weekend was going and if she got up to anything exciting. I don't know if it's to do with that or her pal, ive only been myself with lorna, and had therapists in the past to help me with friendships and understanding things. what could be the real reason? Help much appreciated
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2017): this girl sounds like bad news to me
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2017): honeypie is spot on with what she's said, maybe as she has a boyfriend she finds being friends with you tricky to juggle and blocked you out of panic who knows.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2017): her friend is definately behind it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2017): I agree with you honepie, that could be the case. why would he want to keep an eye on me though? isn't that creepy? I don't need drama, just want to make friends, if I'd known it was going to be drama, I'd have not been friends with her in the first place.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2017): I know it's to do with her pal as she denied it today and had to apologise to the skank.
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (28 August 2017):
 Maybe the BF sent a friend's request to keep an eye on you.
And what ONE person calls "being friendly" another might interpret as flirtation.
So again, how do YOU know who said what to make her block you?
And if that 's the kind of drama you get from trying to be friends - is it really worth it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2017): why has her boyfriend sent me a friend request on facebook then? I wasn't flirting with her, I was being friendly there is a difference.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (28 August 2017):
 She is in a relationship and you are a single man. That's the reason. You were flirting with a taken woman.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (27 August 2017):
How do you know that her friend told her untrue things?
And secondly, Lorna is a grown woman and IF she has decided to "unfriend" you on social media then you act like an equally grow man and ACCEPT it.
If the "pal" of her told her untrue stuff about you and she CHOSE to listen to that "pal", then THAT is her choice. And if it leads her to "unfriending you" then really do you NEED her in your life? Hardly what I'd call a good friend anyways.
Yes, I get it - it leaves a bad taste in your mouth to think she thinks less of you for whatever reason. But the truth is you have ABSOLUTELY no control over what LORNA (and her pal) thinks, feels, says or does.
Let it go. she isn't worth your time or effort.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2017): The "pal" only interfered; because your friendship with a lady who has a boyfriend is suspect. It usually causes more trouble than it's worth, as you've witnessed.
If Lorna is just a friend, backing-off shouldn't be a huge problem. Lorna's friend may not have been the culprit behind her unfriending and blocking you. That might have been her boyfriend; or Lorna just decided you may be more interested than she first thought.
Lorna has a mind of her own, and can make such decisions herself. How could the friend convince her so easily about you, with no supporting-evidence?
Since Lorna has a boyfriend, and an over-protective friend who gets in the way; it's better to go find friends elsewhere. Part of the process of having friends, is learning to part with them and move on.
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